Whose standards are you measuring your life by?

#317 – Whose standards are you measuring your life by?Comparison is the Ego's main expression. It decides whether you're safe or not depending on where you stand in regard to others. It measures your "resources" (re: beauty, money, thinness, youth, y...

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May 21, 2025
How does "should" destroy your peace?

#316 – How does "should" destroy your peace?I first learned about the destructive power of "should" during my coach training, back in 2019. The students' chairs formed a circle in a windowless conference room in the Times Square Marriott Marquis, gra...

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May 19, 2025
How will absolute forgiveness change you?

#315 – How will absolute forgiveness change you?We tend to think of "forgiveness" as something we do when others or ourselves behave in a way that has a negative consequence. Like, "you hurt me; I forgive you."My A Course In Miracles lesson...

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May 18, 2025
What part of you opposes infinite patience?

#314 – What part of you opposes infinite patience?A leader's "sense of urgency" is touted as the root of big business successes––think, Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos, Richard Branson, or Jack Welch. Like other leadership values, this "sense of urgency"...

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May 17, 2025
Who would you be with firmer boundaries?

#313 – Who would you be with firmer boundaries?I've heard people complain about others not respecting their boundaries, but were those 'others' truly overstepping, or were the boundaries not firm enough?Once I got my first computer, I sold my el...

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May 16, 2025
What do you expect from the world?

#312 – What do you expect from the world?As a coach, I used to ask clients how they wanted to feel. Knowing that one can't change the world, I'd help them change how they felt about it.Often, clients responded with, I want to feel supported, loved, s...

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May 15, 2025
What does the Ghost of Misplaced Guilt want from you?

#311 – What does the Ghost of Misplaced Guilt want from you?Like the other rent-free tenants in your mind, the Ghost of Misplaced Guilt (GoMG) wants only one thing: to keep you small. Corralled, because it thinks it's safer.To achieve that, it m...

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May 14, 2025
What in you opposes your resilience?

#310 – What in you opposes your resilience?According to the American Psychological Association's website, "Resilience is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences, especially through mental, em...

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May 13, 2025
Who's at the wheel when people seem "difficult?"

#309 – Who's at the wheel when people seem "difficult?"When certain people bother you because you find them "difficult," look inside yourself.We're all triggered by things that other people do or don't do, at times. But, as the owners of those t...

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May 12, 2025
How do you know your decision was right?

#308 – How do you know your decision was right?Decision-making has become a science.According to my Claude.ai assistant, 5,000 to 7,000 books were published, around 90 TED Talks were given, and 500 to 700 formal courses exist on the subject.I don't k...

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May 11, 2025