How do you tell someone they have a problem?

#425 — How do you tell someone they have a problem?Thinking that you need to tell someone they have a problem is, within the category of contempt, the worst offender.Because, what, you think they don’t know? Are you that arrogant?I am—well, my Ego is...

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Sep 07, 2025
Why does transparency make your Ego cringe?

#425 – Why does transparency make your Ego cringe?Reflecting on how I've told my son things in recent weeks, I realized I'd been "violent" (not "nonviolent") in my communication. Nonviolent communication is based on the idea that you say what's going...

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Sep 06, 2025
How do you relate to "I want?"

#424 – How do you relate to "I want?"Until yesterday, I had no idea I was a compulsive eater. Listening to Geneen Roth's Women, Food, and God, I learned I am one. Of the "restricter" type, specifically.I love lists, rules, regimens (in fact, the...

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Sep 05, 2025
What happens when your fear is justified?

#422 – What happens when your fear is justified?Ego-driven fear, I've maintained, is never justified. What about fear of real death?Yesterday I had a weight-lifting accident. I was doing squats with a 45-pound barbell, and two 25 pound-plates. D...

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Sep 03, 2025
How can a hyperactive Ego stop you from bold action?

#421 – How can a hyperactive Ego stop you from bold action?Richard Dawkins’s selfish gene theory (1976) says your genes don’t really care about you. They care about staying alive through you. You’re just their vehicle.Your genes p...

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Sep 01, 2025
What about inner peace sends your Ego into a spin?

#420 – What about inner peace sends your Ego into a spin?Inner peace sounds like a great place to be. Yet your Ego hates it: your peace threatens its very existence.I discovered it yesterday, as I dragged my feet to my morning meditation, which I end...

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Aug 31, 2025
Why is your Ego so paranoid?

#419 – Why is your Ego so paranoid?"Rationality is what helps you survive."Nassim N. Taleb, Skin in the GameSince your Ego is the internal program running in your brain 24/7 that helps you stay alive, your Ego is rationality.Great, you can thank your...

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Aug 30, 2025
Where did you leave your compassion?

#418 – Where did you leave your compassion?I thought I could save my son, help him reintegrate into normal life, motivate him to be productive.But what I was doing was disregarding his need for and right to happiness.This morning, I had to do some me...

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Aug 29, 2025
Whose time do you live by?

#417 – Whose time do you live by?If you don't stand up to the Ghost of Time Indifference (GoTI), it'll get a hold of your internal calendar and you'll live in perpetual anxiety and/or procrastination.When I'm anxious because my son doesn't seem to us...

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Aug 28, 2025