#69 – What part of you wants to be seen?I'm grateful for my sister's accusation because it allowed me to break free of my fear of not being perfect.Her claim was that I had an ulterior motive all along, and that once I achieved my hidden objective, I...

#68 – Who makes you want to explain yourself?In April of 2022 I "broke up" with my sister.I didn't realize it then, but our relationship had re-entered the realm of codependency after our parents had passed and my family and I had immigrated to the U...

#67 – Who needs to understand?Last evening, I took a walk with my husband by the beach.The tropical rain caught us when we were as far from home as we could be. We took refuge under the South Pointe Cafe pergola and decided to wait a bit, our hopeful...

#66 – (Part 3) Thoughts aren't the problem; our attachment to them isWhen you realize it's just another thought [...], then you can have a spacious relationship with that thought. The thought no longer has you in its grip.Eckhart TolleThe goal of med...

#65 – ChiRunning to empty your mind Yesterday, I discussed how Level 3 listening teaches us to be present with others and ourselves. Today, we’ll explore how ChiRunning can enhance our physical, emotional, and mental awareness while refining our runn...

#64 – 3 practices that keep my mind empty (Part 1)I noticed that it was excess thinking, not a lack of English vocabulary, that made me stumble and fumble when delivering a workshop. I couldn't decide which one of the dozen ideas swirling in my head...

#63 – What's so disquieting about an empty mind?"And replace it with what?," the client asked after we'd worked through the "Who would you be without that thought?" process.That's a natural reflex: if I take something out, especially a thought, I nee...

#61 – Who would you be without that thought?Back in 2019, a coach asked me this question when I told her, "My boss doesn't trust me."I was so attached to that thought being true, that I couldn't imagine not holding it in my mind.She then led me throu...

#60 – Pushback on your boundaries doesn't mean you're wrongJudging by the amount of self-help books, podcasts, articles, and webinars devoted to it, setting healthy boundaries is not an easy task. (I've written about some reasons why in other posts.)...

#59 – Pain is the messenger; how do I stop suffering?In various spiritual practices, the experience of pain is considered a wake-up call.Pain shows up to deliver the message that we’re straying off the path of love and onto the path of fear.What if I...