#194 – What do you want?This question is easy to answer, for the most part. We all want things – a better job, more money, more happiness. To write a book, start a business, learn to play pickleball. But the deeper, more important question is, what d...
#193 – Why do we go with other people's "right?"One day, driving around my Madrid neighborhood with my mother, I realized why I allowed her (and other people) to "get it their way." If I was sure that "my way" was the "right" way, allowing them...
#192 – What do you work for?Essentially, I see three focus points when it comes to performing any activity – although it's especially true in creative endeavors. We could view them as three stages on our way to creative freedom, or true mastery.1. Yo...
#190 – "Right" according to whom?When you’re a rule-follower, you look for rules everywhere. If you go off-track, you fear you'll get you lost, so you seek out gurus and teachers to show you the “right” way – which, to your obedient mind, is the only...
#190 – Who pushes you to shake things up?One of the sneakiest ghosts is the Ghost of Stability Boredom (GoSB). It makes you believe that being bored with "the habitual" is natural and so you don't think twice before toppling your own house of cards.C...
#189 – What makes uncertainty so hard to handle?This morning, while doing my 20-minute writing practice, I stumbled upon the fact that uncertainty is making me suffer. I'd noticed how I had engaged in "escape" activities such as:Looking for houses to...
#188 – What stopped you in your tracks?Have you ever felt super brave one day, sending proposals, posting on social media, pitching to your ideal-but-out-of-your-league client, just to dread turning your computer on the next day, afraid of what you m...
#187 – How will congruence help you fend off your Money Ghosts?Anyone who's ever attempted to create something out of their imagination has faced some form of Money Ghost. True, some ghosts seem more related to money than others. But whatever their M...
#186 – Does the Universe really hear your thoughts?If I send the message to the Universe that I want to make $240K per year, does it hear it? And what if I harbor some doubts? Is my desire erased just because a tiny, barely noticeable thought entered...
#185 – Will wanting to be the best derail you?In 2003, I was sure I wanted to be a writer. I contacted film production companies and went to writing seminars with famous authors. I wrote a novel, a collection of short stories accompanying a singer so...