#109 – What about taking responsibility?The antidote to the victimhood mentality and the tendency to assign blame is, apparently, to take responsibility.But what happens when our Ego, our cruelest inner dictator, takes over, acting like an internaliz...

#108 – What do I need to learn?Yesterday, I bumped into the source of our current family tragedy. The circumstances left no doubt: this person is seeking retaliation—despite having caused the situation they now want revenge for.Everything seems to be...

#107 – How will letting go of resentment make you stronger?A couple days ago, when a photo of a business coach to whom I'd paid a hefty sum for promised (yet unfulfilled) results appeared on my screen, I felt something. An internal, very slight "yike...

#106 – How are physical and mental fears different (or alike)?Fear is fear.Whether it’s a saber-tooth tiger, a calculus test, or descending an icy black diamond ski slope, your body has only one goal: to keep you alive. To prepare for fight or flight...

#105 – Is Your Life a Perfectly-Written Screenplay?So many times we're frustrated with life. We don't like the cards we're dealt, and we huff and puff, wishing for a new hand.But what if the life we have is exactly the life we need?I know—it’s a hard...

#104 – What's the Ego's idea of course-correction?When we take a big leap that results in "failure," two instinctive response are likely to arise. One is to want to retreat into a corner and pull a blanket over our head for the next 100 years.The oth...

#103 – Or what did you think "unfolding" was?One day when I was 18, my father asked me to drive him to pick up his new spectacles because he wanted to show me a new route he'd discovered. "Wait 'til you see how strange this new route is," he said, am...

#102 – What did I need to see?I wrote about my deficient relationship with endings, and then yesterday happened. What did the Universe want me to see, that I wasn't seeing? That an important phase of my life was over, and that a new phase had starte...

#101 – Testing the limits of my "wisdom"On Monday morning, life threw a brutal curve ball at me. For the entire day, I've been trying to find peace.I've meditated, prayed, used all the mantras I could think of. At some point, I thought I'd never emer...

#100 – How agile are you in transitions?The last thing I remember from my life in Lisbon is crouching on the balcony, watching tanks roll down the streets while my Abuela Carola told me to stay down.The first thing I remember from my life in Madrid i...