What's your unprocessed grief trying to tell you?

#496 – What's your unprocessed grief trying to tell you?The thing about grief is that it shows up unlabeled. You feel inexplicable fatigue, paralysis, or lack of excitement, yet you don't know where these come from. You try to go on with your life as...

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Dec 13, 2025
Can grief make you lazy, listless, and defeated?

#495 – Can grief make you lazy, listless, and defeated?You’ve heard it many times: everyone grieves differently. But how do you know when you are grieving?My son spent 10 months in jail. Upon release in August 2025, he wasn’t allowed to leave th...

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Dec 12, 2025
How much of yourself are you not living?

#494 – How much of yourself are you not living?Through years of training to please and be accepted, perhaps you buried parts of your Self so deep that you forgot what they are.That’s "under-being:" not occupying your whole self because not all parts...

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Dec 10, 2025
What part of your resume is really you?

#493 – What part of your resume is really you?Adapting to marketplace expectations is the easiest way to closet who you really are. But it’s necessary to survive in this world, you may argue.To support my son's case transfer to Oregon, I'm looki...

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Dec 09, 2025
Who would you be if the world didn't shape you?

#492 – Who would you be if the world didn't shape you?How much of your Self is molded by external forces and how much is it truly you? And can you even tell the two apart?Looking for full-time work to support my son's case transfer has me sorting thr...

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Dec 07, 2025
What are your ghosts trying to keep you from?

#491 – What are your ghosts trying to keep you from?Learning curves are often winding, swerving, with deep troughs after high peaks. I know it, and yet, I didn't recognize it when it happened.First it was the Ghost of Time Indifference who, very rati...

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Dec 03, 2025
What else stops you from asking questions?

#490 – What else stops you from asking questions?There's a saying in Spain: "he who asks ends up sweeping." That's one reason we avoid asking, so we don't end up tasked with a chore we didn't want to do.But there's another strong reason not to ask: w...

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Nov 24, 2025
What do the questions you ask say about yourself?

#489 – What do your questions say about yourself?We all love to talk about ourselves. Being asked questions makes us feel interesting––the curiosity we spark!Yes: asking questions brings you closer to people. A study showed that people paired up to c...

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Nov 23, 2025
What keeps you from taking the leap?

#488 – What keeps you from taking the leap?Some decisions are hard, not because they require deep thinking or complex calculations, but because we fear getting stuck with the "wrong" outcome.That's what my family and I are facing right now––and what'...

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Nov 18, 2025