#467 – How can you do hard things effortlessly?"There's never an easy route to the things that matter."—Charles de LintWe’ve been sold the idea that the things that matter must be hard—and that we need to fight our internal resistance (the Ego and th...
#466 – How does "I don't care" bring you closer to enlightenment?Saying I don’t care is vilified: we’re supposed to care––about our health, about others, about outcomes.But what I’m suggesting here is a different kind of I don’t care.&...
#465 – How can you rest your way to fulfillment?If effort and hard work were the key to success in life, I know many people who'd be more successful than certain famous billionaires––for example, their landscapers, housekeepers, or personal assistant...
#464 – What part of "no reason" freaks you out?The realization that things happen simply because they do––and they'll keep happening no matter how much protection you've racked up––can be brutal. It can make you feel alone against the world.It can al...
#463 – How do your relationships strengthen when you stop "trying to help?"When you see someone you love suffering, you want to jump in and save them. It’s the most natural thing to do, no? It’s also toxic for a relationship.This morning I realized m...
#462 – How can you receive feedback with equanimity?"Feedback is a gift," they say. Sure. But how can you appreciate it for what it is, and not the attack on your integrity your Ego takes it for?That's the question I grappled with this morning, refl...
#461 – What are you saying when you pray for better?If "someday, somewhere" is your motto, you'll never have peace because there'll always be a different "someday, somewhere" to aspire to.That's what I realized yesterday, when I learned that moving o...
#460 – What do you hope for when you blow your life out?When life feels monotonous and too "normal," some people freak out––is that it? we ask ourselves.On a recent evening walk near the beach, where the new trend is rollerblading, an unsettling thou...
#459 – How does your Ghost of Misplaced Shame keep you under-being?If you’ve ever wanted the earth to swallow you right after taking a bold step, it’s not you — it’s your Ghost of Misplaced Shame.When the idea first appears (“Yeah, I’ll ask for that...
#458 – When will you stop hiding in plain sight?One instinctive response to feeling in danger is to hide. If you felt in danger a lot growing up it's only natural that you still revert to hiding when things feel iffy.On a call yesterday, I told one o...