#204 – What do the Ghosts in your head want for you?Oftentimes, the energy of an emotion that builds up inside comes with some form of internal commentary: “this is good,” or “this is bad.” “You shouldn’t feel this,” “never cry in public,” “what...
#203 – What feels scariest: failure or success?Most people think that only fear of failure paralyzes us. It's not true. Self-sabotage is precisely how our Ghosts and Ego work against our success, and they do it because they're scared – which makes us...
#202 – Can you handle time?Do you feel sometimes that you have all the time in the world, then other times that so much time is going to kill you because the wait is so long until what you want comes to pass, and yet other times that you'll never ach...
#201 – Who enjoys *your* guilty feelings?Not working/studying/exercising enough, eating/drinking too much, sleeping in instead of meditating, watching an episode of Bad Sisters in the middle of the workday, coming up with a lame excuse to avoid meeti...
#200 – Whose story are you buying?You've heard it before: what can't be measured can't be managed – or improved. The question is, who's measuring and what standards are they using?If you want to write a book, for example, and try to find a publisher,...
#199 – Is the Ghost of Undervaluing making you stingy?Years ago, when I was unsure about starting to write a book, my coach asked me, "If you knew you were sitting on an important piece of information, would you share it?"Of course I would –&nbs...
#198 – What is possible when the world doesn't bother you?Does noise – or unwanted sound – drive you crazy?Noise irritability, research consistently shows, correlates with high scores in the personality aspect "Neuroticism."As mentioned in a 201...
#197 – Who would you be if you could handle rejection?The ability to handle (i.e. ignore) rejection is the most powerful tool anyone who aspires to true freedom must hone.When I was a teenager, many dancing clubs in Madrid didn't let in people weari...
#196 – What do you need that you're avoiding?I'll tell you about me: for years, I moped about being a writer who didn't write – woe is me, how I suffer!I ignored that part of myself because... I ignored that part of myself. Period. I had created my o...
#195 – What do you need?Back in coaching school, we debated a seemingly simple choice to open a session: "what do you want?" or "what do you need?"What would be a more effective question to inquire about the session's focus? And what were the differe...