#380 – What do you mean when you complain, "it's not fair?"When life gives you lemons, let's be honest, you feel mistreated. At least I do––why me? why now? etcetera.It's the "Unfairness Trap." The culprit? Your Ego. In the Unfairness Trap, you feel...
#379 – How does universal empathy improve your health?When you're going through a tough time, someone's empathy can make a big difference in your experience. But what is empathy, really?It's the capacity to understand someone else's emotional experie...
#378 – What pushes you to ration your empathy?Some people believe that empathy can be toxic: that showing it to one person takes it away from another.That belief is what's toxic. If empathy were a finite resource, then we'd sure need to be caref...
#377 – What will stop you from quitting?We often trace a cause-effect relationship where there is none. The erroneous conclusions we then draw will make us question the merits of our endeavors.If I write and post a piece on Substack and only 17 peopl...
#376 – What do you gain when you meet everything with thanks?"Be grateful for whatever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond."RumiPeople go to extreme lengths to find gurus, teachers, mentors. Then, why do we reject real-life exper...
#375 – What can happen when you don't set limits to your empathy?You may have heard it too: "I suffer too much, I'm an empath."Well, I have news for you: that's not empathy but codependence, leaning towards "savior complex."Feeling empathy requires t...
#374 – What are some signs that you don't feel worthy?I used to look down on people who make excuses for not following through––where "people" includes myself, whom I looked the downest on.This morning, I recognized where these excuses come from. It'...
#373 – What are you *really* worrying about?Sometimes, when we're dissatisfied with life, we pin it on whatever's handy. Like, "yeah, I'm upset because it's Sunday and it's raining."But that's just a cover up. The real reason is buried a few lay...
#372 – How will obsessing about things block your path to freedom?Obsessing over things (no matter how important or trivial), demanding control and perfection is your mind's reaction to fear. Once you buy into it, you're trapped.A couple nights...
#371 – What changes when you believe nothing's wrong with life?A big source of unhappiness for humans is disappointment. When life doesn't meet our expectations, we protest––or pout and sulk, it's not fair!, stomping our feet to our metaphorical room...