#309 – Who's at the wheel when people seem "difficult?"

When certain people bother you because you find them "difficult," look inside yourself.

We're all triggered by things that other people do or don't do, at times.

But, as the owners of those triggers (aka, our Ego and the Ghosts), we can learn not to pull them.

When that driver's trying to get your attention on the road so that you notice his expensive, noisy car, your Ghost of Need to Prove may go berserk––what? You think I couldn't buy a car like that if I wanted to?

You might as well smile and let it slide.

When that loud customer puts down your product saying that his coffee machine is way better and the coffee you just made for him isn't as tasty as the one he makes, your Ghost of Misplaced Shame may start stepping on your toes––say something, say something, don't let them disparage you!

You might as well smile and let it slide.

When your neighbor complains that your music is too loud and then smokes on the balcony right below yours, your Ghost of Undervaluing hands you an over-used tissue––no one respects you, you're a doormat!

You might as well smile and let it slide.

When your manager doesn't respond to your emails as fast as you'd like, your Ghost of Isolation shuts down the blinders behind your eyes––you can't count on anyone, every man for himself!

You might as well smile and let it slide.

So, to live with people you deem "difficult," disarm your triggers.

And then, smile and let it slide.

How did your life change when you stopped paying attention to other people's "difficulty" and disarmed your triggers?

Love,

Carolina