Where did you leave your compassion?

#418 – Where did you leave your compassion?I thought I could save my son, help him reintegrate into normal life, motivate him to be productive.But what I was doing was disregarding his need for and right to happiness.This morning, I had to do some me...

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Aug 29, 2025
Whose time do you live by?

#417 – Whose time do you live by?If you don't stand up to the Ghost of Time Indifference (GoTI), it'll get a hold of your internal calendar and you'll live in perpetual anxiety and/or procrastination.When I'm anxious because my son doesn't seem to us...

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Aug 28, 2025
Why do you insist on being in charge?

#416 – Why do you insist on being in charge?Frustration only happens because you want things to be different. You then go into fixing mode, expecting to effect change––externally.The result? Fists clenched, feet stomping, head shaking.A more eff...

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Aug 27, 2025
How could you let this happen?

#415 – How could you let this happen?You put all the guardrails in place and yet, the worst-case scenario comes to pass. You ruminate, where did I go wrong?Since my son got arrested, every time I saw a pregnant woman radiant with ecstatic expectation...

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Aug 26, 2025
How can you be present when fear and pain sicken you?

#414 – How can you be present when fear and pain sicken you?When fear and pain are so heavy that you can hardly breathe, it's easy to do one of two things:go full-throttle into fixing modego somewhere else (via Netflix, social media, food...)Ple...

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Aug 25, 2025
What if the obstacles are the point?

#412 – What if the obstacles are the point?Running in the Miami summer in the afternoon sounds like buying a lottery ticket for a heart attack or a heat stroke. I always dismissed it as a crazy practice, and rolled my eyes at people doing it, th...

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Aug 23, 2025
What’s your Ego looking for in certainty?

#411 – What is your Ego looking for in certainty?If only you knew what was going to happen, you'd get a chance to prepare, your Ego tells you. You could then overcome any hurdle and you’d be fine.Your Ego believes that certainty is where safety is. W...

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Aug 23, 2025
How do you keep your peace when the future looks bleak?

#410 – How do you keep your peace when the future looks bleak?The thing you wanted is finally here and you get to see the bleakness of what's ahead of you. Now what?My son came home yesterday and we all faced the very hard and winding path ahead of u...

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Aug 21, 2025
How gratitude kept my Ghost of Need to Prove quiet

#409 – How gratitude kept my Ego and the Ghosts quietDo I need to prove I didn't lie?Yesterday, I sat in a courtroom for the last time in my son's case. He was changing his plea to "guilty," as the final, necessary step to be released from his 309-da...

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Aug 20, 2025