How does gratitude change your experience?

#159 – How does gratitude change your experience?"Imagine a world in which your entire possession is one raspberry and you give it to your friend." Gerda Weissman Klein, Polish-American writer, concentration camp survivor.Giving is so fulfilling for...

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Dec 12, 2024
How your preferences make you unhappy

#158 – How your preferences make you unhappy"The Great Way [Dao] is not difficult for those who have no preference." Seng Ts'an, the Third Chinese Patriarch of ZenWomen of my generation were brought up to believe that "conformism" was the worst of fe...

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Dec 11, 2024
To what extent are our goals driven by status?

#157 –To what extent are our goals driven by status?Yesterday, writing about the Hermès Birkin handbag (with price points anywhere between $22,000 and $225,000) left me wondering: would I ever want to own one?The answer is no. But why? At this point...

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Dec 10, 2024
What's the point of setting goals?

#156 – What's the point of setting goals?Goals, when based on the inspiration your True Self receives, are a gravitational force. You're inspired to write that novel, start that foundation, or do that type of work, and everything in your life seems t...

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Dec 09, 2024
Why is it so hard to hear 'no?'

#155 – Why is it so hard to hear 'no?'Because asking takes courage. And if we do it and we're told 'no,' we feel crushed.Your Ego has convinced you that asking (especially for help) puts you in an inferior position. If you ask, it's because you need....

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Dec 08, 2024
What was the happiest moment of your life?

#154 – What was the happiest moment of your life?If you don't answer, like the Dalai Lama did when he was asked the same question, "Now," you have an opportunity for growth.We tend to think that the "happiest moments" are those when something ex...

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Dec 07, 2024
What could you see if you were blind as love?

#153 – What could you see if you were blind as love?Spiritual guides tell us that love is the answer. If instead of focusing on the splinters we see from three miles away in other people's eyes we just loved them, we'd be happy.One night when my son...

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Dec 06, 2024
When will you drop the "sins" you're carrying?

#152 – When will you drop the "sins" you're carrying?A few years back, I accepted an engagement without fully understanding what the client wanted. Instead of asking questions until I was certain I could help the client in the way they needed, I said...

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Dec 05, 2024
Why does it take courage to be disliked?

#151 – Why does it take courage to be disliked?When a reader of this email series sent me the title of a book he's reading: The courage to be disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, flashes of myself speaking with prospective clients thes...

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Dec 04, 2024
Who do you become when you say no?

#150 – Who do you become when you say no?Back in 2016, while researching female leadership for my master's thesis, I interviewed a PR firm leader who shared a key insight.In their world, promotions aren't just about titles – they're about hourly rate...

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Dec 03, 2024