#281 – Who would you be without fear?Fear, psychologists say, is a self-protective emotion. You spot a sabertooth tiger and run like crazy to find refuge.In such a context, yes, fear may protect you.But we don't live like that anymore––most of us don...

#280 – What's the best use of your power?"A great being doesn't use their power to make the universe––inside or out––be the way they want it to be. They use their power to accept the way it is." Michael A. SingerFor a while, I was convinced that I ne...

#279 – Does the universe make mistakes?If you answer 'yes,' then you can only hope it doesn't when it comes to your life.But if you answer 'no,' you're free.I've questioned many of my decisions over the years: did I make a mistake when I moved to the...

#278 – Where does your pre-emptive regret come from?As I glanced at a recent New Yorker story, the strong indecision author Sarah Miller recounts having experienced intrigued me: "(...) the level of torture I put myself through deciding whether to ge...

#277 – What's the point of gratitude?In my Yoga With Adriene session this morning, while I challenged my strength and balance with a pose where both my legs and arms were wrapped around each other –– eagle pose ––, Adriene said something along the li...

#276 – What's the point of grading your performance in life?The concept of failure tends to bring most people down –– hence the hundreds of blog posts, articles, talks or coaching sessions devoted to reframing it as something positive.Failure is...

#275 – What's the point of defining "success?"When I arrived in New York in 2014, Sheryl Sandberg's "lean in" approach to female leadership was all the rage. From career counselors to role models, everyone suggested that women create our own definiti...

#274 – What makes you restrict happiness?When we decide what makes us happy, we're restricting happiness to a limited set of conditions. Anything else won't work for us and we'll be unhappy.Is that what you want?No. That's what your Ego and the...

#273 – What's in your smile?Years ago, while leading a negotiation workshop for women leaders at a prominent hedge fund in New Jersey, I lost my audience when I suggested to "smile more" as a tactic.Faces grew long and somber. One leader raised...

#272 – What makes reframing so powerful?This morning, while cleaning up after breakfast, the Spanish saying, "you start a circus and the little people grow on you" came to mind. I was thinking of the apparent "bad luck" streak I'm experiencing. I get...