#278 – Where does your pre-emptive regret come from?As I glanced at a recent New Yorker story, the strong indecision author Sarah Miller recounts having experienced intrigued me: "(...) the level of torture I put myself through deciding whether to ge...
#277 – What's the point of gratitude?In my Yoga With Adriene session this morning, while I challenged my strength and balance with a pose where both my legs and arms were wrapped around each other –– eagle pose ––, Adriene said something along the li...
#276 – What's the point of grading your performance in life?The concept of failure tends to bring most people down –– hence the hundreds of blog posts, articles, talks or coaching sessions devoted to reframing it as something positive.Failure is...
#275 – What's the point of defining "success?"When I arrived in New York in 2014, Sheryl Sandberg's "lean in" approach to female leadership was all the rage. From career counselors to role models, everyone suggested that women create our own definiti...
#274 – What makes you restrict happiness?When we decide what makes us happy, we're restricting happiness to a limited set of conditions. Anything else won't work for us and we'll be unhappy.Is that what you want?No. That's what your Ego and the...
#273 – What's in your smile?Years ago, while leading a negotiation workshop for women leaders at a prominent hedge fund in New Jersey, I lost my audience when I suggested to "smile more" as a tactic.Faces grew long and somber. One leader raised...
#272 – What makes reframing so powerful?This morning, while cleaning up after breakfast, the Spanish saying, "you start a circus and the little people grow on you" came to mind. I was thinking of the apparent "bad luck" streak I'm experiencing. I get...
#271 – What does the Ghost of Misplaced Shame want from you?Two or three months into his incarceration, my son told me, "I have this shame..." and left the sentence hanging, not knowing what else to say.I understood but didn't agree because I knew th...
#270 – What part of you resists what is?Whatever part that is, it's a waste of time, because what is can't be changed. So, why fight it?"I'm not fighting anything," you may say.Oh, no? So why do you complain about everything that you don't like –– th...
#268 – How can the "Who am I" question give you peace?Asking questions is empowering because it frees us from the Ego-driven mental patterns.Where the Ghost of Need to Prove makes us scrambling for justification of our righteousness, or the Ghost of...