What’s your Ego looking for in certainty?

#411 – What is your Ego looking for in certainty?If only you knew what was going to happen, you'd get a chance to prepare, your Ego tells you. You could then overcome any hurdle and you’d be fine.Your Ego believes that certainty is where safety is. W...

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Aug 23, 2025
How do you keep your peace when the future looks bleak?

#410 – How do you keep your peace when the future looks bleak?The thing you wanted is finally here and you get to see the bleakness of what's ahead of you. Now what?My son came home yesterday and we all faced the very hard and winding path ahead of u...

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Aug 21, 2025
How gratitude kept my Ghost of Need to Prove quiet

#409 – How gratitude kept my Ego and the Ghosts quietDo I need to prove I didn't lie?Yesterday, I sat in a courtroom for the last time in my son's case. He was changing his plea to "guilty," as the final, necessary step to be released from his 309-da...

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Aug 20, 2025
How does gratitude keep you in the present?

#408 — How does gratitude keep you in the present?When there’s nothing to hope, staying grateful is the only option.Last night, even though I’d been working all day on staying hope-free and avoiding “futurization,” worst-case scenarios came to me.I k...

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Aug 19, 2025
What will you do when you stop hoping?

#407 – What will you do when you stop hoping?A better question might be, "how will you handle not hoping?"When you hope, you're rejecting your present reality, wishing that it'll change in the future. "I hope my son will be released from jail tomorro...

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Aug 18, 2025
How is "hope in the future" keeping you trapped?

#406 – How is "hope in the future" keeping you trapped?I can hope that what I want will materialize. Or I can relax in the moment-by-moment unfolding of life.Hope gives me a momentary rush of happiness. But the loftier the hope, the harder I fal...

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Aug 17, 2025
Do you want true freedom? Stop working for your Ego

#405 – Do you want true freedom?  Stop working for your EgoYou know how the Mafia works: "I'll make him an offer he can't refuse," etc. That's exactly what your Ego does to you. "If you follow my advice, you'll always be safe. Under my protectio...

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Aug 16, 2025
What are you looking for in "being realistic?"

#404 – What are you looking for in "being realistic?"Uncertainty is difficult to handle. The markets go haywire, supply-chain managers freak out, baseball coaches lose their cool. And your Ego? It can't handle it.Will your son get out of jail on Tues...

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Aug 15, 2025
What draws your Ego to authoritarianism?

#403 – What draws your Ego to authoritarianism?Your Ego (and mine) love control, certainty, and superiority. Having those things means it owns the resources, which it can give out or hoard. Being in charge, it feels safe.I was recently made "lan...

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Aug 14, 2025
How do you grow when you dare to be disliked?

#402 – How do you grow when you dare to be disliked?Standing bold in a sea of rejection telegraphs: I don't care. Your Ego and the Ghosts then freak out––what? People reject you and you don't care?, running up and down, fanning their faces with their...

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Aug 13, 2025