#471 – Why did your Ego confuse creation with control?The myth of the creator determined to shape their creation down to the last detail is as old as humanity.A few days ago, in my morning pages, I wrote that I’d undertaken bringing a son into this w...

#470 – What pushes you to justify your rest?Putting in 100-hour workweeks seems to be the new normal for some in Silicon Valley (this Wall Street Journal article says). A badge of honor, a feat deserving applause and admiration.In such a culture, tak...

#469 – How can you envision your future without "futurizing?"Manifestation gurus and "infinite potential" experts tell us we need to envision our future if we want it to happen.But after finding myself engaging in a kind of forward-looking activity t...

#468 – What makes you allow fear to get the best of you?What would you do if you weren't afraid? That question has stopped me in my tracks many times. Today, I think a more interesting question can be, how would you live if you weren't afraid?As we'v...

#467 – How can you do hard things effortlessly?"There's never an easy route to the things that matter."—Charles de LintWe’ve been sold the idea that the things that matter must be hard—and that we need to fight our internal resistance (the Ego and th...

#466 – How does "I don't care" bring you closer to enlightenment?Saying I don’t care is vilified: we’re supposed to care––about our health, about others, about outcomes.But what I’m suggesting here is a different kind of I don’t care.&...

#465 – How can you rest your way to fulfillment?If effort and hard work were the key to success in life, I know many people who'd be more successful than certain famous billionaires––for example, their landscapers, housekeepers, or personal assistant...

#464 – What part of "no reason" freaks you out?The realization that things happen simply because they do––and they'll keep happening no matter how much protection you've racked up––can be brutal. It can make you feel alone against the world.It can al...

#463 – How do your relationships strengthen when you stop "trying to help?"When you see someone you love suffering, you want to jump in and save them. It’s the most natural thing to do, no? It’s also toxic for a relationship.This morning I realized m...

#462 – How can you receive feedback with equanimity?"Feedback is a gift," they say. Sure. But how can you appreciate it for what it is, and not the attack on your integrity your Ego takes it for?That's the question I grappled with this morning, refl...