#34–What the Ghost of Misplaced Shame wants you to believeYesterday I was approached by a recruiter: did I want to interview for a corporate trainer role at a maritime logistics company?Sure, I said. It seemed to loosely fall in my wheelhouse. Today,...
#33–When self-discipline becomes internal dictatorshipI used to say that I'd acquired discipline through the ballet classes I took from 5 to 14, because my parents were more on the laissez-faire side.But what I acquired was the habit of self-punishme...
#32–Is the Ghost of Giving Our Time Away keeping you small?Helping others feels good, I know. But when is helping others a way to stay safe in my smallness?Back in high school, I was really "preoccupied" with my friend Cristina. Her relationship with...
#31–What makes desperation such a cozy place?I know I won't solve anything by feeling desperate.I also know I'll hurt my chances of success by feeling desperate–no one will hire or buy from a desperate person.But desperation acts on my mind like the...
#30–What makes the party-pooper in my head so appealing?In the early morning, at the gym, I'm full of ideas. I'm going to contact this person, and I'll create a list, and I'll write a post, and I'll do this, and I'll do that...But then, at some point...
#29–Is decisiveness an antidote against money ghosts?I could be totally making this up, based on some anecdotal observations of how people buy coffee machines (which isn't a "major" purchase like a house or a car, nor is it a need, like a fridge or a...
#28–Is your effort paying off?What would you think of a system that uses 1,000 times more resources than the results it produces?That it's inefficient, wasteful, and unsustainable. Well, that's how a lot of (wishful) entrepreneurs view working in the...
#27–Did you mistake exertion for progress?A client I worked with years ago told me she didn't have couches at home growing up. Not because they were poor but because her parents believed that resting during the day was unnecessary. A waste of time. I...
#26–My Ghost of Clinging to Useless Possessions strikes backLiking clinging to an old habit, I was, once again, hooked on "needing to know." And because I didn't know, I felt lost.I was commenting on a social media post in which someone declared her...
#25–You thought it was about money?It's not. It's all about power––your personal power.A newly appointed executive at a large corporation told me once that they felt intimidated by their peers on the executive team.Digging down, we discovered that wh...