How does the Ghost of Undervaluing derail your life?

#173 – How does the Ghost of Undervaluing derail your life?The words validation and valuation have the same Latin origin: 'valor,' which means courage, value, and worth.Feeling that we need external validation (or valuation, i.e., assignment of...

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Dec 26, 2024
Who wants you to "look good?"

#172 – Who wants you to "look good?"Early in my career as a voice teacher for singers and actors, I noticed a pattern: some of them were too concerned about how they looked while performing.Instead of connecting with the song or the scene on a deep,...

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Dec 25, 2024
What's the 2% truth in what my "opponent" is saying?

#171 – What's the 2% truth in what my "opponent" is saying?Picture the scene: you're having one of those spinning-stuck arguments with someone. You both know it's going nowhere and nevertheless, you persist.The only way to move forward (and stay conn...

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Dec 24, 2024
How can I find some truth in opposing views?

#170 – How can I find some truth in opposing views?Have you ever had an argument with someone that felt like spinning round in circles without moving an inch? We all have and it's frustrating – and yes, endless, useless, and meaningless.That's becaus...

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Dec 23, 2024
What's grief for?

#169 – What's grief for?The Christmas after my mother's stroke, my father decided "we weren't the kind of family that mopes around and pushes joy away just because their mother is in a coma." We were stoic like that – or, should I say, emotionally im...

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Dec 22, 2024
Can we joke our way to inner peace?

#168 – Can we joke our way to inner peace?"There is faith in humor*." Pope FrancisLike your mind's self-appointed Head of Risk Management and Loss Prevention, your Ego surveils your thoughts with the utmost severity. It disavows following Rule Number...

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Dec 21, 2024
What's the antidote to the fear/hope spell?

#167 – What's the antidote to the fear/hope spell?In fear/hope mode, we're like in a bubble of smog – we can't see what's in front of us, let alone what's outside. They say (and I've written) that the only way out is through, but in this case, the re...

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Dec 20, 2024
Can we have hope without fear?

#166 – Can we have hope without fear?When we hope something will happen it's because, at the same time, we fear something else (contrary, or different) can happen.And if we fear something can happen it's because we don't want it to happen. But what c...

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Dec 19, 2024
Is hope pulling you away from what is?

#165 – Is hope pulling you away from what is?I've been writing about embracing life wholeheartedly, being happy no matter what, and allowing life to unfold and yet, when yesterday some news was not what I expected – or wanted – to hear, I collap...

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Dec 18, 2024