#273 – What's in your smile?Years ago, while leading a negotiation workshop for women leaders at a prominent hedge fund in New Jersey, I lost my audience when I suggested to "smile more" as a tactic.Faces grew long and somber. One leader raised...
#272 – What makes reframing so powerful?This morning, while cleaning up after breakfast, the Spanish saying, "you start a circus and the little people grow on you" came to mind. I was thinking of the apparent "bad luck" streak I'm experiencing. I get...
#271 – What does the Ghost of Misplaced Shame want from you?Two or three months into his incarceration, my son told me, "I have this shame..." and left the sentence hanging, not knowing what else to say.I understood but didn't agree because I knew th...
#270 – What part of you resists what is?Whatever part that is, it's a waste of time, because what is can't be changed. So, why fight it?"I'm not fighting anything," you may say.Oh, no? So why do you complain about everything that you don't like –– th...
#268 – How can the "Who am I" question give you peace?Asking questions is empowering because it frees us from the Ego-driven mental patterns.Where the Ghost of Need to Prove makes us scrambling for justification of our righteousness, or the Ghost of...
#267 – Who are you?You're not your Ego.You're not your thoughts.You're not the fear for what's happening in the world, as you watch how a mature democracy appears to slide into autocracy boosted by lies and parallel realities.You're not the sadn...
#267 – What part of you insists on suffering?Trying to answer this simple question will change everything in your experience.Yesterday, after listening to Michael A. Singer's book, The Untethered Soul, I attempted to answer this question in earnest f...
#266 – How did a Ghost become a Time Spirit?Yesterday, in my weekend retail job, I understood how a Ghost (mental creations that help us cope with fear and uncertainty in childhood) had become a Time Spirit (collective mental creations that help a gr...
#265 – What does Personal Power feel like?Positional Power is something you wear, like a high-top hat, or a red silk-and-gold mantle. It changes you in the eyes of others and hence, changes how others treat you.Personal Power comes from inside – it's...
#264 – When does feedback become desire to control?The ability to receive feedback is, experts say, a fundamental leadership skill.I agree. Yet sometimes, feedback more than intended for the receiver's growth, it's a set of instructions for how...