#18–That's never gonna work, or the Ghost of Idea DeflectionThink about making your dream come true: what part of your life or of yourself would you need to change for that to happen?If your dream is really worth it, the change might need to be quite...

#17–Behind the grudges we holdI think the biggest grudge I hold (maybe the only one) is against my sister.  I’ve tried to forgive her, and to forgive myself for secretly not wanting to forgive her. But the mere thought of letting go of this rese...

#16–Grudges are useless possessionsWhat do we hold grudges for?This morning I had a bad experience renting a car. I felt my mental fists clenching up––like, "grrr!"I spent the day planning my revenge. I'd speak to the manager, and I'd complain here,...

#15–Clinging to useless possessionsWhy do we keep things that don't serve us?In my closet there's a beautiful skirt that my sister got custom-made for her in Thailand. It's beautiful but I kind of hate it. My sister is a heroin addict since I can rem...

#14–Who would you be, if you'd nothing to prove?If you knew you had nothing to prove,what would you wear to work?How would you speak up in meetings?What would you say when you wanted to say no?Or to say yes?What would you say to a prospect, when they...

#13–On the other side of the need to prove––2When you don't feel the need to prove, you learn with an open mind and heart. I've experienced this today.While I'm figuring out what I do next, I've taken a retail job demonstrating coffee machines at a d...

#12–On the other side of the need to proveSince I can remember until a couple weeks ago, the Ghost of Compulsive Need to Prove has shaped my behavior.When I was four, my parents left me with some friends for a day. The family of four took me with the...

#11–What my father saidOne of the readers of this email series, a well-known and highly influential author, is urging me to try to make money off of my writing.She asked me to explore my internal blocks: why do I assume that it's impossible to create...

#10–Pain is the messengerIn February of 2024, I opened my metaphorical purse and started paying for courses and programs to learn how to grow my business.I told myself that I'd always been a "subject matter expert" but my business acumen was mediocre...

#9–Shrinking down and puffing up, two sides of the same coinYou already know this: your ego's only job is to keep you from dying. Sometimes, it goes the "who do you think you're talking to?" route. Other times, it thinks it's safer to just make you i...