#201 – Who enjoys *your* guilty feelings?Not working/studying/exercising enough, eating/drinking too much, sleeping in instead of meditating, watching an episode of Bad Sisters in the middle of the workday, coming up with a lame excuse to avoid meeti...
#200 – Whose story are you buying?You've heard it before: what can't be measured can't be managed – or improved. The question is, who's measuring and what standards are they using?If you want to write a book, for example, and try to find a publisher,...
#199 – Is the Ghost of Undervaluing making you stingy?Years ago, when I was unsure about starting to write a book, my coach asked me, "If you knew you were sitting on an important piece of information, would you share it?"Of course I would –&nbs...
#198 – What is possible when the world doesn't bother you?Does noise – or unwanted sound – drive you crazy?Noise irritability, research consistently shows, correlates with high scores in the personality aspect "Neuroticism."As mentioned in a 201...
#197 – Who would you be if you could handle rejection?The ability to handle (i.e. ignore) rejection is the most powerful tool anyone who aspires to true freedom must hone.When I was a teenager, many dancing clubs in Madrid didn't let in people weari...
#196 – What do you need that you're avoiding?I'll tell you about me: for years, I moped about being a writer who didn't write – woe is me, how I suffer!I ignored that part of myself because... I ignored that part of myself. Period. I had created my o...
#195 – What do you need?Back in coaching school, we debated a seemingly simple choice to open a session: "what do you want?" or "what do you need?"What would be a more effective question to inquire about the session's focus? And what were the differe...
#194 – What do you want?This question is easy to answer, for the most part. We all want things – a better job, more money, more happiness. To write a book, start a business, learn to play pickleball. But the deeper, more important question is, what d...
#193 – Why do we go with other people's "right?"One day, driving around my Madrid neighborhood with my mother, I realized why I allowed her (and other people) to "get it their way." If I was sure that "my way" was the "right" way, allowing them...
#192 – What do you work for?Essentially, I see three focus points when it comes to performing any activity – although it's especially true in creative endeavors. We could view them as three stages on our way to creative freedom, or true mastery.1. Yo...