#144 – Is wanting worth it?Read onlineLast Sunday, during my coffee-machine demo shift, a young woman with two tween daughters approached my station. She darted to one particular machine, caressing it almost with lust. "I love this," she said. "I wan...
#143 – What would you be without judging?Read onlineSometimes we think that judging signals our advanced mental skills, powerful critical thinking, or deep logical reasoning.It's not. If we think that, it's because we're believing the Ego, whose...
#142 – Who makes you unhappy?Read onlineOf course, it's the world that makes you unhappy, when it's not how you expect it to be. You're unhappy because your boss didn't give you that raise, your cat has fleas, your son's room is a mess, plus you...
#141 – How to ruin your life in three simple stepsRead onlineStep one – ComplainComplain about things you can't control and whose behavior has nothing to do with you. Feel attacked by them and believe that life's not fair. For example:The weatherTraf...
#140 – How are you free?Read onlineBack in my voice coaching days, a 14-year-old client was frustrated to notice that her voice changed across settings – particularly at stores, where her pitch would rise and her timbre soften to a whisper.I explaine...
#139 – What are you grateful for?Read onlineIn the late 70's, picking up after one's dog was unheard of in Madrid, and the street my Abuela [Grandma] Carola lived in doubled as the neighborhood's dog park.Every time we would go visit her, we had...
#138 – How are your preferences holding you back?Read onlineDo you need to always "like" what you experience to be content?If so, you may be clinging. And if you are, you're surely missing out on what life has to offer.The Ghost of Clinging to Useles...
#137 – Who felt disrespected?Read onlineWorking with clients, especially in the corporate world, I often recommend Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as an effective process to broach a difficult conversation. In its deepes...
#136 – How is procrastination a form of impatience?Read onlineYou're yearning to start a dream project. You know it'll change your life because completing it will change you.And yet, you don't start. What's stopping you?The Ghost of Time Indiffe...
#135 – Who else lives in your "comfort" zone?Read onlineThat zone where your mind constantly returns? Habitual, yet rarely comfortable.What Arny Mindell called Primary – what we do, feel, say, think, or become when we're not paying attention – shapes...