#338 – What makes you justify your "unloving" thoughts?

Finding reasons to despise others may be rewarding, satisfactory. It gives us the podium we step on to declare our moral superiority.

Yesterday I saw this scene in a movie my husband was half-watching: a woman yells at her daughter's father, cussing, insulting, shoving him. She asks him for money and when he offers her a few $1 bills, she yells and doesn't take it. Driving away, she gives him the finger. The man stares, blank-faced.

I said, "what a toxic woman," and bit my watermelon.

But then, the following scene shows the man's hidden stash of cash.

Oh, wait–he's "bad?" I asked myself. So... the woman was right?

Aha! There was my Ego!

It made me assess the woman: "toxic." It said that having "hidden" cash makes someone "bad." It sentenced, "if he's bad, she's right."

But those are all lies. Because:

1. I don't yell at people or shove them, but who am I to declare how others should act?
2. I don't think I'd stash money instead of feeding and clothing my daughter, but I might find myself in a situation where that was my only option.
3. The fact that my "aggressor" is wrong doesn't make me right, if I'm also aggressive and violent towards them.

Judgement, violence, and aggression are but manifestations of unloving thoughts.

You may reason all you want about why someone deserves them. But that won't make them more wholesome.

They arise from fear and separation. They mean you believe you're unlike the other person.

But you're not. We're all just humans trying to make sense of life. Some of us make more mistakes than others, but that doesn't make us bad.

In these times of extreme social and political polarization, turbulence, and fear, only love and togetherness will save us.

How will erasing unloving thoughts free you from the Ego's grip?

Love,

Carolina