#190 – Who pushes you to shake things up?

One of the sneakiest ghosts is the Ghost of Stability Boredom (GoSB). It makes you believe that being bored with "the habitual" is natural and so you don't think twice before toppling your own house of cards.

Could it be fear, and not boredom? The fear you feel when you're asked to grow? What if it's not about routine at all, but about evolution?

When something you've built stabilizes, it's not a signal to abandon it for the next shiny object – it's an invitation to go deeper.

I started this newsletter six months ago. Writing and publishing an essay every day has become a predictable routine for me. That's when I'm most vulnerable to the GoSB, which shows up with promises of greener grasses elsewhere – look for an agent, pitch to magazines, start something else.

If I listen, though, I'll be giving my power away to the Ghost.

The key is to shift perspectives entirely. Instead of looking at myself, I look at my work – how can I better serve it?

Discussing this Ghost during a workshop, a participant shared that she was feeling it influencing her relationship with her partner. She'd found herself creating ripples out of nowhere, just to feel things were moving.

By pushing for a breakup, she stopped the relationship from growing, which would demand that she grow with it. And that's the scary thing. Are we up to the task?

What stable aspect of your life will help you grow, once you stop being bored with it?

Love,

Carolina