#257 – How can you deal with toxic people?

Just kidding. Responding to this question would counter everything I've shared with you so far.

Why? Two main reasons.

One: if someone is or isn't toxic or not is NOT your problem, so there's nothing for you to deal with.

Say you're a frog, and want to be in relationship with a scorpion: you wouldn't blame it for being poisonous, would you? Scorpions find others scorpions super fun and lovely, so, who are you to judge?

Now, you're at choice: do you or do you not want to be in relationship with someone whom you consider "toxic?" That's the question you need to answer, and there's no right or wrong. You're free to end any relationship in your life that you feel harms you or closes your heart in any way.

But change them? You can't. And even if you could, it's not your role (plus it'd be manipulation or contempt).

And two: people are not toxic. People are people, and some have stronger, meaner, more dangerous Egos and Ghosts than others.

Have compassion. For them and for yourself: we're all going through the same struggle; we all want liberation from the creeps in our minds.

The creeps in your mind: that's whom you need to learn how to deal with.

If we all did that, if we all managed to stand up to our Egos and Ghosts, learning to let their judgements pass through us without reacting or taking their orders, we'd be detoxifying our minds, lives, and relationships.

What relationships in your life have become poisonous and you know it's time to either end them or heal them?

Love,

Carolina