#260 – How can radical respect improve your life?

Speaking with my son yesterday, I said I didn't know what could make the prosecutor change his mind about the evidence, so he'd look at it with attention.

My son responded, "he only needs to treat this case with respect and then that's it: I'll be out."

When we treat things, people, and ourselves with respect, we give them all our attention, we make the effort to understand them beyond our biases, and we handle them with sufficient care as to preserve their integrity.

Do we always act this way?

A client last week was telling me about an episode that had made them feel "stupid" and "deceived." From now on, they said, they'd be more stringent with their trust.

As we explored these feelings within the Ego & Ghosts framework, they discovered that their True Self is eternally pure and trusting, and doesn't want to change. It was their Ego, nagging them with thoughts of, "you're naive, you're stupid, people always take advantage of you because you're too nice."

Not only were they tolerating the Ego's bully berating, they were believing it.

Radical Respect places preserving everyone's and everything's integrity (including your True Self's) above all else.

Treating your Self with Radical Respect means you don't tolerate – or believe – your Ego's and Ghosts' berating. You let the attack thoughts come in, feel their impact, how they hurt, and then you tend to the part that feels hurt – your True Self.

If we all did that always, we wouldn't tolerate the bullies outside, who probably wouldn't be bullies if they treated their own True Selves with the same Radical Respect.

Where do you most see the need to give your Self Radical Respect?

Love,

Carolina