Why solving marriage issues is so hard

 [ Read Time: 1 min, 15 secs ] A guy at my church reached out to me recently asking for an upgraded zoom account so he could record his messages. After recording, he planned to send the videos to our website guy so they could be uploaded to th...

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Apr 12, 2021
How to upset your spouse and yourself at the same time

 [ Read Time: 1 min, 6 secs ] Today is Cetelia's birthday (happy birthday, CBoo!).Earlier this week my bride said, "Since I've turned 40, my pain tolerance has decreased."Let me tell why this comment jumped out at me:Cetelia had three babies -...

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Apr 10, 2021
Are these 2 things killing your marriage?

 [ Read Time: 50 secs ] A couple of days ago I heard a story about a company that is currently going through leadership coaching and training. The supervisor said, "We want to have a culture of trust, but verify. In reality, however, we have a...

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Apr 08, 2021
What if it's *not* the ceiling fan?

 [ Read Time: 1 min ] A couple of mornings ago I watched my ceiling fan spin round and round.After a few seconds, I looked out the window, and saw the leaves blowing on the tree in my front yard.Was there a connection? Was the draft from the c...

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Apr 05, 2021
What to remember in bad situations

 [ Read Time: 45 secs ] A former businessman in Texas named Fred Smith was fond of saying, "Don't lose the good in a bad situation."I've taken these words to heart.July 2019 to July 2020 was the most difficult time Cetelia and I have had in ou...

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Mar 31, 2021
Are you making it rain? 🌧

 [ Read Time: 22 secs ] Imagine your city desperately needs rain. After several days of high temperatures and dry weather, a rain cloud finally forms. You rejoice with anticipation over the relief to come. But, the rain never falls. Not one dr...

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Mar 26, 2021
Why your expectations are ruining your marriage

 [ Read Time: 3 min, 20 secs ]Expectations are great when we set them.They're not so great when our spouse doesn't meet them.Hence, the problem with typical expectations:They are standards you create -- often without the knowledge or input of y...

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Mar 24, 2021
The day I learned my marriage mentor cheated

 [ Read Time: 4 min, 50 secs ]Back on July 15, 2000, Cetelia and tied the knot.(She looked exquisite that day ... and still does!) Three weeks later, we started a year-long mentoring relationship with a couple from our church named Steve and La...

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Mar 19, 2021
Encouragement for the struggling spouse 🙏🏾

 [ Read Time: 1 min, 12 secs ] Pain. Nothing but pain.Long days. Harder nights. Heart break.When will it stop?The haiku above may be your story.The pandemic has made tough situations tougher.While there appears to be a sliver of light where th...

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Mar 15, 2021