After sending today's email about love languages, it occurred to me that I didn't include a link for you to learn your or your mate's language.Go to https://5lovelanguages.com to get started.And, if you already know your mate's love language, great!...

Recently I've been coaching a couple about speaking each other's love language. The wife's primary language is words of affirmation, and her husband's is physical touch.Neither of them naturally thinks about performing acts that correspond with their...

What is it that would make the biggest difference in your marriage today that you have the ability to do?Of course, you can do it. But, you already knew that.But knowing isn't the same as doing, is it? Sometimes, the gap between knowing and doing is...

If marriage were easy, we'd find a way to make it hard.I say that because as humans, we're gifted at making mountains out of molehills, making the simple complex, and finding ways to amplify our differences when the cup of commonality runneth over.Du...

Hi, ,One of the biggest breakthroughs I’ve had recently is understanding that the way I listen—especially to my wife—has been about protecting myself. I’ve been listening with a shield up, assuming that she’s just trying to spare my feelings or isn’t...

Hi, ,I've been thinking a lot lately about the stories we create in our heads, especially in our marriage. I’ve come to realize that a big part of the disconnection I feel with my Cetelia isn’t about what she’s saying—it’s about what’s happening in m...

Hi, ,As I keep exploring the impact of listening on my relationships, I've come to a realization: much of the time, I’m not really listening. Not fully, anyway. Instead, I’ve got this background story running in my head—one that shapes how I hear wha...

Hi, ,I’ve been reflecting more on the idea of listening, especially the way it shapes how we engage in conversations and relationships. And something hit me: beneath my listening filter—the one that assumes others aren’t being sincere or are just spa...

Hey there, ,In my last email I mentioned how our listening impacts the quality of our relationships. Some ways of listening can empower us, while others disempower us. I wanted to share with you a breakdown of both. These lists are not exhaustive, bu...

Hi, ,I'm dealing with my fourth bout of Covid currently, and have been sleeping in another bedroom this week.Last night I asked my wife, Cetelia (sa-till-ya), if she missed me sleeping in the bed with her. She said yes, but I had already made up in m...