Thursday night I officiated a wedding, and talked about marriage by referencing something that happened when I went to the bride's house for premarital counseling with her and her fiancé:When the counseling session was over and I was about to leave,...

Hi, ,What if your spouse never stops doing that thing that isn't ... ☐ unethical ☐ immoral ☐ sinful ☐ nor unbiblicalBUT, that thing ... ☐ annoys you ☐ drives you crazy   ☐ and keeps happening despite your pleas that it st...

Don't go looking for dirt on your spouse.If it's there, it will appear. It always will.At the same time, don't willfully turn a blind eye to evidence that suggests something untoward is going on.As you can see, there's the fine line to walk:Trust tha...

I drove down a recently repaired road a couple of days ago. Actually, they're still doing a little bit of work on it, but the bulk of the repair is done. As I was riding on the even, smooth asphalt, I considered how much of a hassle it was to drive o...

After sending today's email about love languages, it occurred to me that I didn't include a link for you to learn your or your mate's language.Go to https://5lovelanguages.com to get started.And, if you already know your mate's love language, great!...

Recently I've been coaching a couple about speaking each other's love language. The wife's primary language is words of affirmation, and her husband's is physical touch.Neither of them naturally thinks about performing acts that correspond with their...

What is it that would make the biggest difference in your marriage today that you have the ability to do?Of course, you can do it. But, you already knew that.But knowing isn't the same as doing, is it? Sometimes, the gap between knowing and doing is...

If marriage were easy, we'd find a way to make it hard.I say that because as humans, we're gifted at making mountains out of molehills, making the simple complex, and finding ways to amplify our differences when the cup of commonality runneth over.Du...

Hi, ,One of the biggest breakthroughs I’ve had recently is understanding that the way I listen—especially to my wife—has been about protecting myself. I’ve been listening with a shield up, assuming that she’s just trying to spare my feelings or isn’t...

Hi, ,I've been thinking a lot lately about the stories we create in our heads, especially in our marriage. I’ve come to realize that a big part of the disconnection I feel with my Cetelia isn’t about what she’s saying—it’s about what’s happening in m...