Hi, ,As I keep exploring the impact of listening on my relationships, I've come to a realization: much of the time, I’m not really listening. Not fully, anyway. Instead, I’ve got this background story running in my head—one that shapes how I hear wha...

Hi, ,I’ve been reflecting more on the idea of listening, especially the way it shapes how we engage in conversations and relationships. And something hit me: beneath my listening filter—the one that assumes others aren’t being sincere or are just spa...

Hey there, ,In my last email I mentioned how our listening impacts the quality of our relationships. Some ways of listening can empower us, while others disempower us. I wanted to share with you a breakdown of both. These lists are not exhaustive, bu...

Hi, ,I'm dealing with my fourth bout of Covid currently, and have been sleeping in another bedroom this week.Last night I asked my wife, Cetelia (sa-till-ya), if she missed me sleeping in the bed with her. She said yes, but I had already made up in m...

Recently I was thinking about what has been the most significant thing Cetelia and I have done to increase the level of peace in our marriage. The answer?We’ve gotten better at leaving each other alone. What I mean by that is we’re giving each other...

One of the things I despise most in other people is rude behavior. It's easy to spot. It looks like disrespect, not considering others' feelings, time, or possessions. It's being impolite in behavior, words, and actions.If I ask you to think about th...

Hello there, .A common line I hear from husbands and wives is, "How does my spouse expect me to know what he/she's thinking? I'm not a mindreader."I know I've said it a lot about Cetelia, and I imagine you've said it a time or two about your mate.As...

Hi !Today Cetelia and I celebrate 24 years of marriage. We went to the Grand Canyon over the weekend, and had a good time - until we landed in Dallas.While taxiing to the gate, we got into it. Here's the crazy thing: I don't even remember how it star...

This afternoon a friend's wife and I were on the phone going over the details of some work I'm doing for their new business venture. Her husband came into the room, and made a joke about his wife. We all laughed, and moved on.Kinda.Thirty minute...

I'm a late-blooming Marvel fan, and loved Avengers: Infinity War.In one pivotal scene (and I'm going to assume you've seen it or don't plan on seeing it), Thanos, the villain, finds himself inside the world of the Soul Stone. There he meets a re...