#322 – What's guarding the door to realizing your wildest dream?

A big leap in success can cause all sorts of disruptive behaviors. It may look like an accident, an unexplainable illness, or an irreparable mistake.

The reason these seemingly random disruptions happen is self-sabotage. Not believing we "should" be so successful, we do something to provoke failure.

I've been there. In my underpaid job as an Adjunct at Borough of Manhattan Community College, I felt at home. Despite the long commute, enormous amounts of non-compensated work, and long periods of unemployment, I did all I could to succeed.

But when I landed a six-figure consulting job, I did the opposite. I failed to prepare thoroughly for assignments, didn't research the clients beforehand, and refused to learn the basics of finance––our clients' industry.

Why did I do that? According to Gay Hendricks in The Big Leap, I'd bumped into my "Upper Limit."

If that's ever happened to you, Hendricks claims, it's because you remembered that you were not supposed to experience so much success, abundance, or love and so you did whatever it took to go back to where you were before.

In other words, a part of you roots for your failure because it feels that growing past a habitual limit is dangerous.

If by chance or by choice, you find yourself swimming in abundance, an alarm goes off in your brain. Your Ego and the Ghosts, fearing imminent catastrophe, slide down the fireman's pole and go to work on your mind. Claiming "safety first!," they take turns guarding the door to your outrageous success.

And if you're already inside, they make the fear-mongering rounds until you exit what they claim is a collapsing structure.

But there's something else inside you: a part that knows what you're capable of. It's your True Self, and once the Ego and the Ghosts feel its strength, they'll file for unemployment, deserting the fire station in your mind.

What programmed your belief that you can't grow past a habitual limit of abundance?

Love,

Carolina