How to Stay in Self-Energy During the Holidays (Even When Family Pushes Your Buttons)Holiday gatherings can be wonderful… and also surprisingly triggering. We may love our families, but they often have a special talent for activating the parts of us...

An Idea to Make Holiday Gatherings Even More FunIt wasn’t fair! Each Christmas morning, I would find wonderful presents under the tree for me, but Santa never brought anything for my mom and dad. I was a little disappointed in Santa, to say the least...

If you are local to the Madison, WI area, I would love to get your feedback on my new talk related to IFS - Inner Alignment for Outer Impact. No fee, just feedback. It will be on December 11th at the George Culver Library in Sauk City at 10:30 am. I'...

Staying Positive Around Negative People - The IFS Method You'll Want to TryThe most common question I get after my talks on positivity is: “Okay… but how do I make the other people in my life more positive?”You might be thinking of your boss. Your pa...

This Might Be the Most Important Work You Can Do for the World Right NowLately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how easy it is to get pulled into the heaviness of everything happening in the world. I’ll read something online, or scroll through social...

Your Inner Peace Isn’t Gone — It’s WaitingHave you ever noticed how quickly your calm can disappear? One moment you feel grounded, centered, and clear… and then something happens — a tone of voice, a deadline, a look — and suddenly, there's the react...

Finding Freedom - When Your Ego Doesn't Need to Be RightMost of us were never taught how to be wrong. We were taught how to succeed, how to prove, how to justify, how to win. And somewhere along the way, many of us picked up the belief that being rig...

How Your Inner World Influences Your HealthA few weeks ago, a friend reached out to invite me on a fun adventure—dinner and a movie. Girls’ night out! I was so excited! I was telling Kelly—because she just happened to be hanging around—how much I was...

The Small Choices That Change How You FeelWhat do you use to inspire peace, happiness, purpose, and well-being in your life?It’s a question worth pausing for—because even though we can’t control everything happening in the world (or sometimes even in...

Why We Trade Authenticity for AcceptanceOne of the strongest human needs we all share is the need to belong. From the moment we’re born, our survival depends on being connected to our caregivers. That’s why attachment theory teaches us that children...