#40–Is it frugality or self-deprivation?"I don't want to feel like a poor child."That's what my father responded one Christmas Eve when I confronted him about always buying excessive amounts of food for that night's dinner.I got it. He grew up in pos...

#39–How does the Ghost of Time Indifference keep you stuck?You want something very badly. And yet, you don't take action. Sounds familiar?Take me, for example.Once I decided to close my business and committed to building wealth instead of merely trad...

#38–Do you remember who you are?You know who you are. But do you always remember?I am a writer.At three, I "wrote" stories on a blackboard in my room, and I read them to my toys.At seven, I very badly wanted to write a book, although I couldn't under...

#37–When has your fear become pain in your body?Have you ever felt a fear so intense that you became physically ill?Shortly after incorporating my business in Spain, I was referred to the Head of HR & Talent Development at the largest Spanish ins...

#36–"Did you feel safe growing up?"Barbara Huson asked me this generous question on a group call recently.Well, only if and when I provided my own safety, I replied. Whenever things were out of my control, I never knew what to expect.Would my father...

#35–Permission to feelA couple of weeks ago, listening to this flamenco song by Camarón de la Isla, I was surprised to feel a wave of strong emotion. Despite being on a bus full of locals and tourists, I started to sob (noticeably).I wasn't embarrass...

#34–What the Ghost of Misplaced Shame wants you to believeYesterday I was approached by a recruiter: did I want to interview for a corporate trainer role at a maritime logistics company?Sure, I said. It seemed to loosely fall in my wheelhouse. Today,...

#33–When self-discipline becomes internal dictatorshipI used to say that I'd acquired discipline through the ballet classes I took from 5 to 14, because my parents were more on the laissez-faire side.But what I acquired was the habit of self-punishme...

#32–Is the Ghost of Giving Our Time Away keeping you small?Helping others feels good, I know. But when is helping others a way to stay safe in my smallness?Back in high school, I was really "preoccupied" with my friend Cristina. Her relationship with...

#31–What makes desperation such a cozy place?I know I won't solve anything by feeling desperate.I also know I'll hurt my chances of success by feeling desperate–no one will hire or buy from a desperate person.But desperation acts on my mind like the...