#93 – Martyrdom and salvation – who benefits?My codependent family of origin was a master of manipulation.The "entity" that was The Family (not any specific member, but the relationship itself) trained us to play out a vicious cycle:Person A feels ba...
#92 – Worrying is useless – but how useful is striving?The idea of striving has a strong reputation in the world of work and performance. "We strive for excellence." "Strive for progress, not for perfection," etcetera.But how useful is it, really, an...
#85 – Whose Ego deterred you from your True Self's purpose?Being an artist is more than a calling, or an identity. Could we say it's a "nature?"Since I was seven, I wanted to write. I felt like a poet.But at 13, my father's well-intentioned words mad...
#91 – How do you keep your peace of mind?"I don't mind anything at all*."Neal AllenCan I get there?I think I can, at least when it comes to my own worries—will I finish my to-do list, will my taxes skyrocket if I get too many payers, or should I rewr...
#90 – What can you see when you change your glasses?If turning the lights off allows us to see what's truly there, sometimes all we need is a change of perspective.Yesterday, a $30K strategic advisory deal that had already been signed by the client f...
#89 – What in your life wants to be seen?You can't see anything real in daylight; you can only see what you want to see. When you turn the lights off in the night, you see what wants to be seen.Malidoma SoméWhen things don't go as you planned, what d...
#88 – When it's time to ask for money, whom do you advocate for?Some people advocate for themselves when asking for money for the goods or services they provide.They know the worth of the products or services they offer, and charge accordingly. ...
#87 – How to balance trust with working toward your future?One could argue, if you truly trusted, why work toward your future?That’s the wrong question.Because trust isn’t magical thinking or "hopium," as we discussed yesterday.What are the right que...
#86 – How do you know it's trust and not "futurizing"?Whenever we're attached to a potential outcome, we're not living in the present.I call that "futurizing," and it's as dangerous as what some people call "hopium."Hopium could be described as an ir...
#84 – Who wants you to 'start with why?'When I arrived in New York in October of 2014, most people I met were curious about what had brought me there from Madrid, my home city."What's your why?," they'd ask.I kept hearing this question everywhere: at...