#186 – Does the Universe really hear your thoughts?If I send the message to the Universe that I want to make $240K per year, does it hear it? And what if I harbor some doubts? Is my desire erased just because a tiny, barely noticeable thought entered...
#185 – Will wanting to be the best derail you?In 2003, I was sure I wanted to be a writer. I contacted film production companies and went to writing seminars with famous authors. I wrote a novel, a collection of short stories accompanying a singer so...
#184 – Does your Ego also comment on your dress?My friend VJ knew she needed to exercise because she felt flabby and low-spirited. The reason she didn't was her lack of have appropriate shoes. Well, she had a pair of red sneakers, but she couldn...
#183 – Why won’t my Ego let go of that bone?For the Ego, winning isn’t enough. It has to do it with flying colors and undeniable pride and merit.Two weeks ago, during a sales-team training call, I learned I’d been the quarter’s top performer in my co...
#182 – Who gets in the way of your forgiving?During a therapy session in a TV series, a woman whose husband had an affair says she judges herself for having forgiven him. That she knows she shouldn't stay with him and feels guilty for loving him.I kn...
#181 – And when I caused the harm?A former client once told me that, as a toddler and young kid, she used to bump her head against the couch whenever she made a mistake. Like many people, she believed self-punishment was the way to greatness.It's not...
#180 – But what if they *really* hurt me?When someone causes us (or someone we care about) harm, a common reaction is anger. After the initial shock, as we replay the act in our head, our desire for justice and reparation becomes vindictive in the ha...
#179 – Forgiveness is key, but how do you actually do it?During a group coaching call, a participant asked the question: "how do you forgive someone or yourself, practically speaking? What do you actually do?"I understand that question down in my bon...
#178 – Will your Ego ever leave you alone?Short answer: no. But you created it, so you might as well train it so it doesn't ruin your relationships.In truth, it's yourself whom you need to train. You need to learn to ignore its demands and tantr...
#177 – What is life asking of you?When I told my husband about the radical acceptance stance I've been trying to practice, he understood it as passivity––do nothing. It’s not that.One thing is to not fight. A different thing is to not act. What I adv...