#63 – What's so disquieting about an empty mind?"And replace it with what?," the client asked after we'd worked through the "Who would you be without that thought?" process.That's a natural reflex: if I take something out, especially a thought, I nee...
#61 – Who would you be without that thought?Back in 2019, a coach asked me this question when I told her, "My boss doesn't trust me."I was so attached to that thought being true, that I couldn't imagine not holding it in my mind.She then led me throu...
#60 – Pushback on your boundaries doesn't mean you're wrongJudging by the amount of self-help books, podcasts, articles, and webinars devoted to it, setting healthy boundaries is not an easy task. (I've written about some reasons why in other posts.)...
#59 – Pain is the messenger; how do I stop suffering?In various spiritual practices, the experience of pain is considered a wake-up call.Pain shows up to deliver the message that we’re straying off the path of love and onto the path of fear.What if I...
#58 – What are you seeing that isn't there?Me? I saw mockery in someone's eyes. Boredom in another's. Disappointment and eye-rolls coming from 12 slouching backs and blank faces.It happened during one of the first gigs I did with the communication co...
Please, unsubscribe if you're tired of hearing from me –– no hard feelings!#57 – What makes you quit?I've heard it many times: "I'm going to write a Substack for 100 days in a row," or "I'm going to run five days a week," or "I'm going to start cooki...
#56 – What I learned receiving my first tip at 54Today, a buyer tipped me $20.Not having worked in a tipping environment before, her gesture caught me by surprise. A few weeks before, another woman had tried to give me a tip, but I'd refused to accep...
#55 – Want to have a bigger impact? Stop hidingA client realized yesterday she'd been hiding. Hiding had prevented her from having the impact she (and the HR people at her company) knew she could have.But she was wary of the responsibility that havin...
#54 – What if nothing I see means anything?If nothing I see means anything, then I'm free. The first time I washed my hair after my son was born, I feared that I might scare him if he saw me while I was blow-drying my hair, my head down.I asked my hu...
#53 – What would be available to you if you let go?Letting go doesn't mean quitting or giving up.It means unclenching your fists when things don't go as planned. It means forgetting that you were trying to prove something.It means tossing your meetin...