#103 – Or what did you think "unfolding" was?One day when I was 18, my father asked me to drive him to pick up his new spectacles because he wanted to show me a new route he'd discovered. "Wait 'til you see how strange this new route is," he said, am...
#102 – What did I need to see?I wrote about my deficient relationship with endings, and then yesterday happened. What did the Universe want me to see, that I wasn't seeing? That an important phase of my life was over, and that a new phase had starte...
#101 – Testing the limits of my "wisdom"On Monday morning, life threw a brutal curve ball at me. For the entire day, I've been trying to find peace.I've meditated, prayed, used all the mantras I could think of. At some point, I thought I'd never emer...
#100 – How agile are you in transitions?The last thing I remember from my life in Lisbon is crouching on the balcony, watching tanks roll down the streets while my Abuela Carola told me to stay down.The first thing I remember from my life in Madrid i...
#99 – How to quiet the Ghost of Missed Opportunity?Regret is futile: it leads nowhere and only leaves you feeling sad. But what’s the alternative? This morning, I discovered it.I was putting away the spices my son and I had used for our tofu scramble...
#98 – Why do we stand being 'bullied'?At an offsite dinner with a company I used to work with, my boss bullied me.It wasn't the first time, and in a strange, twisted manner, it made me feel like I 'belonged.' It wasn’t until a few months later, when...
#97 – What interferes with your internal GPS?On Monday, a friend who cares about making sure I’m compensated for my work offered to pay me for certain tasks.He had everything worked out: the payment structure made sense, and the tasks were clear and...
#95 – Should you or should you not?My father lived by 'moral obligations,' and one could think he was a devoted son, nephew, friend... But beneath that façade of devotion, he was simply following the commands of an internalized taskmaster.'Obligation...
#95 – What do we feel guilty about?Does breaking your own rules trigger guilty feelings in you?Most likely yes, as reported by Psychology Today.But of course, and you probably know what I'm about to say, it's not your own moral rules what you feel gu...
#94 – Who wants you to feel guilty?Anthropologists argue that guilt serves a social purpose by encouraging individuals to follow a culture's implicit rules.But what are its consequences on an individual level?Like other systems humans have created to...