dill's blogUse people’s names Yesterday, I went on an errand run in the morning. I got my teeth cleaned at the dentist and my car tuned up at the shop. Dale Carnegie’s self-help classic, How to Wins Friends and Influence People, is quite archaic in i...

dill's blogRules are good Not too many, of course, but we all need structure. Principles. Boundaries. Limits. Play around with them. I did the keto diet for two years. Quite restrictive. In the end, it wasn’t what I wanted. But I still need rules. I...

dill's blogA friendly, shitty reminder Something to remember when you feel like you’re falling into a black hole of anxiety and stress: There were folks—individuals, families, and entire civilizations—who worried about the exact same things you’re wo...

dill's blogWhy self-help (usually) doesn’t work After hitting rock bottom at 23, I converted to a religion practiced by millions of ambitious individuals around the globe: Self improvement. Classic books. YouTube videos. Podcasts. I was consuming hou...

dill's blogDo this when you’re in a rut Regardless of what you have going on, we all go through unwanted periods where we feel stuck. In our work. In our relationships. In our bodies. Aside from true mental health issues (which I know little about),...

dill's blog50% more What would it look like if you were 50% more compassionate today? 50% more: • patient• kind• sympathetic• helpful What would that look like? Give it a try. 50% more

dill's blogThe 5-step formula for developing a passion A buddy and I were discussing our passions yesterday. Music and coding for him. Coaching and chess for me. To mirror Cal Newport’s thesis in So Good They Can’t Ignore You, we both agreed that we...

dill's blogNever too late Yesterday, I caught up with an old friend for a few hours. It was lovely. In the past, she was flakey and non-communicative. This was frustrating. She told me she was working on it. So I curiously asked her what strategies s...

dill's blogWorkaholism Some call it that. Whenever I spend a decent time away from work, I’m always itching to get back into a productive space. I’m incredibly grateful for this. I couldn’t imagine having a job where I’m counting the days until the w...

dill's blogYou can’t be everything to everyone It doesn’t matter how many people laugh at your joke; there will always be people who find your words offensive. It doesn’t matter how even-tempered or rational you are; there will always be people who t...