Why "trying harder" is ruining your manifesting
Aug 10, 2026 10:39 am
Hi ,
For years, whenever I tried to "manifest" or bring a change into my life...I did it with clenched fists.
ð My process used to look a lot like this...
Creating vision boards and looking at pictures until I felt almost obsessed...
Constantly checking for signs or proof that things were changing...
Feeling a subtle, underlying panic that if I didn't keep forcing it, it wouldn't happen...
Mental loops of wanting, wishing, and waiting-feeling like I had to "hold the vibe" every second...
And that exhausting feeling of bracing myself, wondering why everyone else made it look so easy while I was putting in so much effort ð
It felt like an ongoing battle between my desires and my nervous system. And honestly it left me feeling frazzled, anxious, and oh soooo tired.
So what finally shifted things?
Realising that my body didn't feel safe with all that pressure.
I was trying so hard to force alignment that I was actually creating resistance ðĪŊ My nervous system was picking up on the desperation, the bracing, and the constant urge to check...interpreting all of it as stress.
But as always, turning to my lovely practice of EFT Tapping became the gentle anchor I needed to finally break that cycle âð...
It was a way to step out of the struggle and unclenching the grip around what I wanted.
It helped me soothe the stress of waiting, release the urge to micro-manage every detail, and move away from forced positivity
Instead of gripping my desires with tight fists, tapping helped me learn how to hold them with open hands-with a calm, steady, "feather touch" awareness ðŠķ
That shift in relationship with myself and my desires? That's what changed things for me...
It wasn't about trying harder or forcing a high vibration...it was about teaching my body that it was safe to drop the pressure, slow down, and open up to receiving.
This is exactly why I created a new video course - Grounded Manifestation: Gentle EFT Tapping For Alignment
It's a 4-day somatic tapping journey designed to help you release the exhausting habit of checking, control, and over-working-so you can step into a quiet, grounded state of ease and trust.
Across four short sessions, we gently move through...
Softening Doubt & Unworthiness
Releasing The Grip & Restless Checking
Becoming The Match (for your desires)
Your Daily Morning Practice For Grounded Alignment
All you have to do is press play and tap along with me.
How to Watch...
⥠Already a Heart Circle member? Grounded Manifestation is live and waiting for you in your courses section right now as part of your membership. ð Log in here and start Session 1 today
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⥠Prefer to listen on Insight Timer? If you use Insight Timer (a meditation app) and subscribe to Member Plus, you can take the course directly on the app ð Listen to Grounded Manifestation on Insight Timer here
There's nothing you need to fix or figure out before you listen. All we're doing here is offering your nervous system a gentle moment to pause, soften, and breathe.
I hope this gentle journey brings a deep wave of relief to your heart and body today.
With love,
P.S. If any of this resonated with you today, or if you have questions about the course, EFT tapping, or whether The Heart Circle is right for you - just hit reply to this email. I read every message and I'm always here to help ð