Instagram LogoAs a kid, I grew up next to a farm, and my best friend and I would explore it every chance we could. To a young boy, on this farm there were new worlds to discover, journeys to take, and adventures to embark on. Dangers lurked around every corner and we had to be ready for them. We battled serpents, rats the size of small dogs, and the occasional territorial bull. We had to rescue damsels in distress, which usually turned out to be a cow that found her way out of the fence. To a couple of rugged trailblazers, we were in explorer heaven. Now as an adult, I can look back on those days with fond memories. Re-living in my mind the days filled with a couple of innocent boys armed with great imaginations and the burning desire to find things out. I also shudder to think of the many real dangers we came close to as we headed out on our daily adventures across the pasture land, into the woods, and at the old farm pond. I have grown older now, and many things have changed since those days of two pre-pubescent boys building tree forts in the woods, chasing stray cattle, and catching flying grasshoppers to use for bait on Ol’ George, the big bass, at least a 10 pounder, that lived in the pond. The farm has since been sold and the barn was torn down. Houses have been built near the pond, most of the woods have been clear-cut, and to my knowledge, cunning Ol’ George never was caught. And sadly, in order to feed his need to explore adulthood, my best friend turned to a life of drug and alcohol abuse. Our friendship ended, his health failed, and we had not spoken in nearly thirty years when I got word of his death a few years ago. My love for adventure stayed with me throughout the years too, but rather than turning to things that could damage my mind and body, I found another addiction – Books – Large books, small books, paperbacks, hardbacks, audiobooks, and e-books. Each time I crack open the cover of a new book, whether it be fiction or non-fiction, I embark on a new journey. A journey where I can explore new worlds, re-visit old worlds, face danger, learn new skills, and gather the information that will help guide me through this real adventure we call life. #art
Instagram LogoPAIN IS THE PRIMARY SYMPTOM: Pain is what motivates you to seek therapy. Whether your presenting complaint is anxiety, depression, problems in a relationship, feelings of inadequacy, quitting smoking, losing weight, or whatever else, pain and its consequences are your fundamental reason for seeking help. Every person that walks into my office is someone that has some kind of a problem. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t be there. That problem is pain —whether the symptoms are anxiety, phobias, insomnia, stress, etc. — every one of those symptoms leads back to avoidance of pain. It is a painful thing subjectively to you, only some people spell pain sometimes as p-a-i-n, sometimes you spell it p-h-o-b-i-a, or s-t-r-e-s-s, or s-m-o-k-i-n-g, etc. When I approach this thinking all problems are defined as pain, it seems to be easier for me to set aside any preconceptions and it allows me to examine and see each problem from a more unbiased and genuinely inquisitive point of view. I become interested in the nature and location of each individual's unique discomfort, rather than trying to fit your peripheral symptoms or presenting complaints into a diagnostic category. With this view, pain also makes it easier for you to understand and examine. The negative outcomes of psychiatric labeling are well documented. I despise labels for the most part. This approach allows you to cooperate more openly in your sessions and allows you to be less ambivalent about revealing your relevant thoughts and feelings when we refrain from diagnoses and frame the problems only as pain. So, there are two reasons for tracing all problems back to an issue of pain. First, your experience suggests that pain is an accurate description of the distress, hurt, and tedium that so often fills your life. Second, the metaphor of pain best conveys the perspectives and techniques that are most useful with various psychological and emotional issues and that underlie our hypnotherapeutic approach. How much better would your life be once you learn to release that pain? • • • • #clinicalhypnotherapy #hypnosis #hypnotherapy #changework #selfhypnosis #stopsmoking #quitsmoking #painrelief
Instagram Logo4 Common Traits Of Happy People There's something special about happy people. Apart from smiling and laughing more often than the rest of the population, happy people also have these four traits in common: 1. They live in the present Happy people focus on what’s happening right now. They know that whatever happened in the past, stays in the past. There’s no point mourning about it in the present. So, they make the most of what they do have. They learn from their mistakes and failures in the past, but they don’t dwell on them too much. Which is the exact opposite of what unhappy people do. Most people are unhappy because they let themselves get too attached to the past. If you’re one of them, you’ve got to learn to let go. Move on and focus on what you’ve got right in front of you, right this very moment. Otherwise, you’re going to miss out big time on the present, and you’ll only add it to your long list of things you regret. 2. They’re optimistic about the future Happy people aren’t naïve. They know the future is important. They can’t simply live in the present, and not have a good plan for the future. They’re optimistic about what the future holds. If you’ve got a good thing going, you’d want it to last as long as possible. This is why happy people want to protect their source of happiness. They’re not going to throw it away for some silly things that are going to cost them a whole lot more. 3. They appreciate everything Gratitude is often overlooked in one’s quest for happiness. It’s so easy to look beyond the good things you do have and go straight to wishing for things you know are way out of your league. Let’s talk about money: for most people, being wealthy is their ultimate goal. They think that when they become rich, they can finally be happy. But, oftentimes, this isn’t the case. You can be happy without being wealthy. Try to appreciate the gift of life, family and friends, good health, etc. Life’s not all about money, you know. 4. They have a good sense of humor Happy people know how to roll with the punches. They don’t dwell on whatever negative thing’s happening to them right now. They take it all in stride. Be HAPPY!