Dear Friends,

The holidays change as your family grows and the kids become adults.

The first year all six of our kids were out of the house—two in college and all arriving close to Christmas—we noticed something.

Many of our holiday traditions revolved around the kids. Without them, it felt like there was a void. Like we couldn't go to things that were for "families" if it was just us. How to celebrate now?

One day, my husband suggested something that made me laugh: “Let’s have a Sexy Christmas.”

The name was playful, and we chuckled at first, but it also became a reframe. Instead of mourning what wasn’t, we embraced what could be.

We got dressed up and went downtown for plays, concerts, and pop-up Christmas events.

We played holiday music and danced in the kitchen.

We went to a tree lighting and loved it. No asking "when can we leave?" or complaints about cold hot chocolate.

We greeted each other after work with a twinkle in our eyes, asking, “Are you ready for a little Sexy Christmas tonight?”

We reframed celebrating as empty nesters and we reclaimed the celebrations!

I’m not sharing this to overshare but to offer a perspective.

The holidays can be an opportunity to redefine traditions, especially if life looks different than it once did. For us, “Sexy Christmas” became a season of connection, playfulness, and joy—just the two of us.

It’s a reminder that the holidays aren’t just about what you’ve always done. They can be about what you create together.

 As Justin Timberlake once said, "I’m bringing sexy back." Why not bring your own version of that to the holidays?

Yes, Christmas is about Christ. God created marriage and His desire is for deep marital intimacy. This reframe definitely does that.

How are you reframing your holidays this year?

If you want help bringing the sexy back to your marriage, I can help. Let's talk!

Merry Christmas!

Heather