Folks,In the book The Coaching Habit, author Michael Bungay Stanier has a question he calls the opportunity cost question: “If you say yes to this, what are you saying no to?” It's a great question. The reverse is also true.Howard Luks reminds u...

Folks,If you want to be a speaker, book a stage. If you want to be fit and healthy in your old age, don't think about what you used to do — start doing what you want to do. There is usually one thing that unlocks the thing you want to do. It might no...

Folks,You can work on the system, or more commonly, you can work in the system. Same for businesses and coaching, too.There is knowledge of the game and knowledge about the game.The green lumber fallacy, popularised by Nassim Taleb, reminds us that w...

Folks,“Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself the truth.” That’s not advice for the faint-hearted, is it? It is, though, a great place to write from. If you can. Because the truth is always more interesting than you might think.Ther...

Folks,What’s a bit like riding a bike? Coach education! Are you sure? Yep. We all know what education looks like. What it does and doesn’t do. Much like riding a bike. Only, if you don’t ride a bike that often, well, then you probably don’t...

Folks,We are told to keep the end in mind. After all, reverse engineering from the place you want to go to makes sense. So, do you focus on having fewer injuries or do you focus on being robust?What difference does it make? Turns out quite a bit. Bec...

Folks,I'm going to start with a note I got in the post last week from the creator of The Dot, Peter H Reynolds. The magic of the note was in the time and care Peter had taken to craft his response to my sending him a copy of my book. A hand-drawn pic...

Folks,If I have a theme from last week, it is respond - resist. A coaching conversation I had last week started with how to tinker with the message and ended with a realisation that it wasn't clear what the person actually wanted.Write a blog, and a...

Folks,I heard the term “perfect loser” this week, and I couldn’t help but sit with it for a bit - it’s so good!What do you lose when you try to look perfect?What do you need to not be perfect?It goes on and on. The perfect loser is my personal b...

Folks,Here are a few things that played out this week:Minority Rule: Organise a free play session. Watch it descend into chaos as the minority rules.  Emerging from chaos came agency; kids who were being overrun by the louder, bigger, brasher ki...