Hey there

Have you ever had someone come into your program and struggle?

And then...

Without telling you...

Enroll in some other program...

And their results skyrocket...

What do you do when you find out?

#evillaugh

If you're like a former version of me...

You'll start spinning stories in your heard...

Stories that suggest ideas that aren't anywhere near truth...

Ideas like...

* I completely failed that person

* I’m a total fraud

* My programs must not be worth it

* Who am I to charge these kinds of fees

* I'm so bad at what I do that my clients have to work with someone else…

Been there...

Done that...

Didn't bother with the tshirt...

So listen up...

When that happens and it will…

First of all...

Be kind to yourself.

Second...

Don't make it about you.

Here's what you need to understand...

Transformation is not a solo sport. 

Transformation is a team sport. 

Everybody has a tipping point for super performance

And it takes a lot to get to that tipping point...

Most of what it takes is psychological..

And to be honest..

Whilst we might know our stuff...

Most of us have absolutely no clue how the human mind works...

That's why I typically recommend that everyone of my clients have basic training in accelerated change technologies like NLP...

And if you're in Nigeria...

I highly recommend Innocentminds Training...

Their system has literally empowered me to work miracles not just for individuals but also for governments.

Anyways...

Let’s say by the time your client starts working with you…

They have been suffering with whatever they’re struggling with for a while.

Or they’ve been working on it for a while. 

Think of it as your client stacking up dominos, all in a line. 

Stack, stack, stack.

Only…

Nobody knows when that first domino is going to tip over...

Or...

WHAT is going to be the catalyst for it tipping over…

Let alone WHO gets to be there for that ultra-satisfying moment when allll the dominos come tumbling down.

It may be you.

And if you understand how the human mind works...

It will be you!

But sometimes...

It may be someone else.

Depending on our level of awareness and our skills with the human mind...

We ALL get the privilege...

At different times...

To be the one who kicks off the domino.

But make no mistake...

In every high transformational relationship...

Your client has been stacking dominos for a while. 

And nobody really knows just how much stacking is needed before that first domino falls.

It may be you. It may be someone else.

Truth is...

It doesn’t really matter.

When you’re playing in the realm of deep transformation...

What matters is that you help your client keep stacking those dominos...

No matter what.

Your client may be frustrated having to invest more time...

Money...

Energy...

Attention...

And the thing STILL isn’t solved…

Indeed...

That client may be “mad” at you...

Projecting that frustration on you.

Don’t fall for it. 

BE with what is coming up for your client. 

Stay in your power. 

It’s not about you.

A human being’s transformation requires whatever it requires. 

And that is a factor of many things...

Including how ready and willing your client REALLY is...

To have what they want.

We all love fast results.

I love fast results.

But...

Neurologically speaking....

There really is only so much change we can take in...at any given time. 

Your client may need to be in the struggle a little while longer so that they can recalibrate things...

Meanwhile…

There you are....

Stacking domino after domino after domino after domino. 

And if after stacking just enough dominos...

They listen to someone else and that person's word is the thing that tips them over...

Celebrate!

Don't beat yourself up about it.

Celebrate...

Because you know for a fact that...

Without your domino stacking work...

That breakthrough would never have happened.

Don't lower your fees...

Don't hang your head in shame..

Don’t question your worth, your abilities, or the process of stacking dominos.

But understand what you could have done differently..

Because that’s how you become masterful at anything. 

Acknowledging what’s RIGHT and then asking… “what else?”

So the next time that your client comes into your program, flounders around, and then has their “domino moment” with someone else...

Celebrate with them. 

Because you’re really freaking good at stacking dominos.

Till tomorrow...

Play a bigger game.

CTM

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