Hey there!

If you've followed my work for any length of time...

You know that I'm pretty big on the value of people...

Tribes...

Community.

Heck!

I've got an entire methodology built around creating, leveraging and monetizing a tribe...

I call it the Community Mastery Method™

There's a lot of power in having a great support system...

What I don't talk about much is the dark side of a great support system.

More on that in a moment.

When it comes to potential...

There are two kinds of people.

• Those who realize their potential
• Those who don't

The individuals with all the potential in the world who never realize it can’t get away from the eyeballs on them.

They don’t know how to release themselves from the scrutiny and haven’t developed the skill to disconnect and recharge.

Everything they do is under the microscope by spectators (more on this in a bit).

But it's not just about the scrutiny...

There's also the expectations.

The expectations become overwhelming.

People expect them to win...

Entire countries may count on them to bring home a gold medal..

Thousands of employees could be counting on them to pay their salaries.

. But the biggest issue...

In my opinion...

Comes not from the scrutiny and expectations of the rest of the world...

But from those of your own inner circle of relationships.

Your best friends, partners and even family will criticize you for going to bed early instead of staying up with them like you used to...

Or for working late into the weekends instead of watching movies with them like you used to (scrutiny).

Because they can sense that you are creating distance and moving towards something foreign to their relationship with you.

But...

They will expect you to share the rewards of that early morning or late night work with them (expectation).

Because they can sense that you are creating distance...

And since they are not willing to do what you are doing...

They will find a million ways to try and govern your progress..

Most times they don't even know that they're doing it.

And if we are not aware of it...

We can end up in a brutal spiral:

The scrutiny is mentally exhausting...

We have to work twice as hard to get our work done.

The expectations lead to us sharing our rewards..

We end up working twice as hard for a fraction of the reward. On the other side of it...

Your “inner circle” is being rewarded for refusing to do the work.

They complain...

Cause friction...

And then reap the benefit of your hard work.

It becomes a pretty painful spiral that will burn out any ambitious person who can’t recognize it and break the cycle.

So...

How do you break the cycle?

Here are my two default go to cycle-breaking tricks:

First give them an assignment.

If they complain about your early Friday night bedtime...

Invite them to help you out with something at 5 AM on Saturday.

If they complain about you working all weekend...

Invite them to come with you and jump into the work so you get it done faster.

When you get resistance for working hard or being disciplined...

Just say "Join me nau?" (That's Nigerian for "Wanna jump in?")

If they say yes, great.

If they say no, great.

Either way, they’ll give up their excuse to be a pain.

Second...

Everybody has something they have to overcome:

What extraordinary people understand about issues is this...

You can either carry them around and let them weigh you down...

Or...

You can use it as fuel.

The most extraordinary people have gone through some amazing catastrophe and they simply use it as fuel to do the next thing.

They don't carry it around and let it weigh them down.

People always remind me of things that I didn’t do right....

It's their right to do with my short comings as they please...

Just as it is my right as well to use it with confidence...

Turn it into something that ultimately serves me.

I hope to God that that becomes your attitude as well...

Don't be one of those people who carries around past events and short comings on their head...

Parading it around in useless shame and fear...

And pointless embarrassment for all to see...

Seriously...

What good does that do you?

Why not turn it all into fuel and use it to fuel something other than your own downfall?

People who maximize their potential for succeed in any area of life...

Turn scrutiny and failure into fuel.

You should do the same.

Starting today.

My mother died of breast cancer...

But on the day she died...

A very traumatic day for me I might had...

On the day that she died...

She couldn't see clearly through the eye on the side of the infected breast....

Half her face was swollen..

She was in pain and she could barely eat...

Be there she was by the fire place...

Reading for her law exam.

These days...

When things get tough and hard...

I remember my mother...

I remember the strength, courage and commitment of the woman who bore me.

And in that moment...

My trauma becomes a gift...

An unending source of fuel for me.

It’s not the “world” that is going to prevent you from stepping into your greatness.

It’s your inner circle of relationships...

If you let them.

Most of the time...

They honestly don't realize that they're holding you back.

It's not malicious action...

It's just human nature as far as I'm concerned.

WARNING: Colorful language loading

There's a world of bullshit out there.

And if you want to achieve your ambitious goals...

A key skill to develop is the ability to confront..

Call out...

And navigate bullshit....

In a way that doesn't slow you down or know you off course.

That's what we're talking about tomorrow...

You. Will. Love it.

Till then...

Get out of your own way.

CTM

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