Hey there..

I’m going to be honest.

99% of the work I do to help people make quantum leaps forward has little to do with the mechanics of business (that part is easy).

It has everything to do with what I refer to as Mastering The Window And The Mirror™.

Let me explain...

It was my first time in New Zealand...

And even though I'd worked with Kam for a while...

It was my first time in his place outside Nigeria.

And it was super impressive to my mind at the time.

Now...

I'm cocky about it because I use to that level of wealth display.

Anyways...

I was standing by the window...looking out at his garden.

As things started to get dark outside...

The window started behaving like a mirror...

Reflecting different things inside the room I was in.

At a point it actually seemed like the reflections on the windows glass were actually things outside...

#pausingfordramaticeffect

I had an interesting conversation yesterday with a wonderful gentleman...

He was sharing with me how tough building his practice was and that he needed help...

"My audience is made up of the wrong set of people!"

"They'd rather spend money on entertainment rather than results" (Not true by the way)

"They don't like me""

"You can't trust anybody these days"

"They're all just waiting for me to fail and be ruined"

#sigh

He was making the same mistake I made for a brief moment as I looked out through the window..

He though he was looking out the window gathering feedback out the world..

But truth be told...

He was in fact fact looking directly into a reflection gathering feedback about his busy brain.

These things feel real.

In fact...

You might even be sure that you SEE the evidence that these things are real.

Biko (Please)

Better make sure that you’re not mistaking a mirror for a window.

Question: How do you do that?

First....

Know Thyself

If I was worried that I won't be able to tell the difference between afang soup and edikang ikong soup...

The smart thing to do is spend as much time as possible to get familiar with both soups so I can tell the difference...

In the same way...

If I were worried about knowing the difference between factual reality and me projecting made up thoughts in my brain on my circumstance...

I would spend more time understanding me and what's happening inside me...

Rather than trying to understand what's happening outside me.

Second....

Understand The Fundamentals

If we know the sun goes down at 6:00pm...

Then we know that it's very likely that round about then....

Windows will start acting like mirrors...

The smart thing would be to stop making decisions about "what's out there" until morning when the window acts as it should.

There are days, times, situations and even people that influence clear thinking...

There are days, times and situations where we lose contact with reality.

Understand when to be on the lookout for what.

Understand the fundamentals.

Third....

Microstep To Evidence

The fastest way to know a story you're telling yourself from reality is to get evidence.

Take the smallest step that will tell you whether or not it’s safe to the next step to start getting real world feedback.

Think your spouse is mad at you?

Have a conversation.

Worried your clients are going to leave?

Ask them.

Microstep your way out of your own head and into reality.

Finally...

Get Yourself A Cornerman

In boxing the corner man is the person who assists the boxer in between rounds...

They take care of them..

Give perspective...

And help them keep their sprit up against all odds.

Janet has been my cornerman for the better part of two decades.

She has a firm grasp of my personal disposition...

My strengths...

My weaknesses...

Add to that her expertise and network...

And you can start to have an idea of how valuable she is to me.

She gives me grounding and perspective.

Most of us have technicians.

Many have mentors and coaches.

The problem is that they are often standing in the same room looking out the same window you are.

They simply don’t have the perspective of a true Cornerman.

Get yourself a cornerman

Better yet...

Let me be your cornerman for the coming year 2023..

And speaking of cornermen...

And given it's the weekend...

May I please share a lill bragging piece?

Thank you.

So early last quarter...

Edward...

One of my Diamond mastermind members invited me to do a workshop for his people...

Here's how he introduced me:

Ladies and Gentlemen...

You likely have not heard of the person I am about to introduce to you...

But you know me.

This man has elevated my performance and key skills to new heights so I can compete and consistently win at the highest levels I possibly can...

This isn't the guy that you're introduced to because he may or may not have something to say...

He is a gift that is bestowed upon you.

He is my friend, my brother, my mentor and my very special gift to you.

Pretty cool right?

Question: who's saying that about you?

On Monday I'll start a conversation about that...

You're gonna love it.

Till then...

Get out of your own way.

CTM