Hey there..

So I had this client of mine that I totally loved...

No surprise there...

I kinda sorta love all my clients...

And yes it's ethically deliciously nonprofessional and ecologically toxic.

#leavemealone

#asiwassaying

One day...

We're hanging out at her studio and I ask her this question:

How will you know when you're a success?

Her answer?

"When I've achieved all my dreams"

#sigh

Unless of course you're the wonderful Innocent Usar...creator of the Epic Outcome Matrix, the next generation of accelerated change technologies...

(By the way...if you're looking for a worldclass opportunity to kickstart the New Year and finally push through your boundaries...you're going to want to show up for PUSH. Come learn in one day the fundamental distinctions that saved my life in 2019. It's free. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER if you're in Nigeria.)

Or a client of my Rapid Results Hypnotherapy Clinic...

Or a rather suspicious colleague at the Center for Simple Radical Change...

The chances are pretty high that you won't see anything wrong with that statement...

And that is just one of the many little ways we get in our own way...

But I'll leave that for now...

If you'd like a conversation about that personally...

Feel free to hit reply and lets talk...

I won't charge you a kobo.

For now...

I'll happily confuse you a little more in the service of your ultimate good...

Give you an assignment...

And set you on your merry way.

“ Success is really nothing more than the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. This means that any person who knows what they are doing and where they are going is a success . Any person with a goal towards which they are working is a successful person.” - Earl Nightingale

Pick a day from last week and run through it in your head.

When did you wake up?

Did you you have any clothes on?

#scratchthat

What did you do?

What did you want to do but never got around to?

Now...

Close your eyes and take a few breaths.

I SAID CLOSE YOUR EYES!!!!!

#sigh

I want you to imagine your perfect day...

From the moment you wake up until the moment you go to bed.

Not the day that society says is perfect...

Not the day that would make you look the most successful to other people.

But the day that you would be happiest living.

This is a tough exercise.

From experience...

The chances are pretty high that you won't do this.

Why?

Because most people will never clearly define what success means

to them in terms of their life...

Because when we define the conditions of success...

We also defined the conditions of failure.

For example...

If my definition of success is waking up and laying in bed with my girls...

Then as long as I have to rush out of the house at 5am...

I’m falling short.

It’s easy to hide behind the trappings of success:

Revenue numbers..

Fancy cars....

Big house...

But right now...

If you truly want to get out of your own way and start to rig the game in your favor...

It’s time to cut the bullshit and start working toward what really matters to you.

Defining the conditions is a huge step.

Once you’ve clearly identified them...

It’s impossible to continue to ignore them.

So I want you to take the time to do this for yourself...

And me..

Do it for me.

I don’t need to see it...

But I have taken the time to write this email for you...

So.....

Here's what I need you to do...

Write out your perfect day and then finish the sentence:

“I know I am successful when…..”

And if you're bold enough...

Send it to me as an email.

This is a picture of your future life...

From now on...

Every decision needs to be weighed against that picture.

Every decision needs to be a step closer to your success.

For example:

Let’s pretend that part of your perfect day is:

“I will be home before 4:00 pm so that I can pick up my kids from school

and help them with their homework.”

When a long term job/contract opportunity comes to you...

Ask yourself:

“Does this job/contract prevent me from being home by 4:00pm every day to pick up my kids and help them with their homework?”

If the answer is yes...

YOUR answer should be a clear no.

Don't take the job or contract!

Regardless of the money, authority or perceived potential benefits...

This decision is a step further away from your perfect life.

Anytime we can make one decision that eliminates thousands of decisions in the future...

We have become a little more efficient.

And isn’t the point of money...

Authority...

And fame...

To have the life you want?

So take sometime out and get this done and hit REPLY to share what comes up for you.

At Start the Year Right we take this exercise to a whole new level and provide you with thinking tools that ensure that you're in complete alignment as far as your perfect day is concerned.

Tomorrow...

I'll dig into why failing to manage or not knowing how to manage your expectations is pretty much a death sentence as far as your success in life and the market place is concerned...

You're going to love it.

Till tomorrow

Get out of your own way.

CTM

BTW: Wanna spend 5 days with me thinking through 2023 at Start The Year Right...hit reply and lets talk. The investment is just N50000.

PS: It's my birth month and yes I am shamelessly asking for gifts and surprises and possibly an island of the coast of Brazil...but I can also settle for an acre of land in Lagos or Abuja...I'll send you my list if you ask for it. Birthday's 30th November 2022.