The doctor on the phone said: ‘There is no way you could be autistic, it would have been picked up at school’. I cried when I got off the phone. “My entire concept of myself was being dismantled. I felt very weak, scared and frightened in that moment. I decided to go private.” Ms Smale warned autism is also associated with “white boys” as she argued autistic people of colour are also neglected by health professionals. Read other article via the Independent https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/autism-women-diagnosis-test-masking-b2040824.html?amp #autism #autismacceptance #autismblack #autismwomen #neurodiversity #actuallyautistic

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"I would snap at them, I would just see red when others upset me and didn't know how to stop. I got put on performance review" - KC (#ADHD + #Dyspraxic client) When you suffer from #RSD and have challenges with regulating your emotions due to executive function deficits, you can end up making impulsive decisions. When you make impulsive decisions that impact your career, it's time to take steps to change this. One of the most effective methods of treating emotional dysregulation is dialectical behavioural therapy (#DBT) Read my latest post on #OppositeAction a highly effective DBT emotional regulation skill to help treat impulsive decisions @theruthellen.

“When I get feedback, I start to question who I am” “I feel so isolated, my colleagues hate me” This 👆 is how just one client experiences Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD). RSD can feel so painful 😓 and those that don’t experience it can make you feel invalidated with their off the cuff remarks. So here are some prompts from my journal to help you with RSD until the rest of the world gains greater acceptance. This reflective practice will help you claim back your power so you never allow another person to control how you feel by their actions. Take a couple of breaths before doing this, the growth is in the discomfit. #adhdwomen #adhdtips #adhdrejectionsensitivity #adhdawareness #adhdcoach

Seriously, there is another way to get things done without the shame and blame game cycle that often leaves us stressed and frazzled by the time we are done. Follow @theruthellen for more ADHD support #adhdbusiness #adhdwoman #adhdawareness #adhdcoach #adhdconsultant #smallbusinessowner #businessowner

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What gets celebrated gets replicated Too many our out there trying to get validation derived from #neurotypical benchmarks that aren't for us. If we live for people's validation, we will die by their criticism 🙌 Remember that you are excelling 🙌 Remember that you are enough 🙌 Remember that you are exquisite Leave a comment on what you're excelling in, create your benchmark for success #adhd #adhdwomen #adhdnonbinary #adhdgirls #add #inattentiveadhd #hyperactiveadhd #combinedadhd #adultadhd #adhdstats #adhdentrepreneur #adhdbusiness #autism #adhdcommunity #neurodiverse #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #adhdsymptoms #adhdawareness #womenwithadhd #womenownedbusiness

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When you people please, it’s another ADHD mask of protection to help you fit in Past trauma, self-esteem, and fear of rejection are just a few of the reasons we people please. How do I know how this? Because I used to say yes to taking on clients when inside I meant no… people pleaser sign I would change my outfit whenever my partner (now ex) would say that my clothes weren’t appropriate… people pleaser sign I would look at my calendar and realise only 10% of the things that featured on it were actually moving my life goals forward…a major people pleaser sign! I am a recovering people pleaser Being a people pleaser was actually doing me more harm than good But it was a survival mechanism to feel accepted by others And if you’re reading this then you know that this is what is happening to you too, here’s the good news, you are going to learn how to stop being a people-pleaser Because everything is trainable Here are the 3 few tips using clarity, choice and calm: 1. GET CLARITY ON YOUR PRIORITIES When you get clarity on what is important to you and how it adds meaning and value your life, it get’s a whole lot easier to say no to other people’s agendas. Your no list is really a yes list to you, which will help others on a bigger scale! 2. SAY “CAN I GET BACK TO YOU” When you give yourself time to think about whether you can fulfil the request of another person, you give yourself a chance to make better decisions. When we stretch ourselves thin we stress ourselves out, does it make sense to be stressed to make another person happy? 3. REPEAT BACK THERE REQUEST Chris Voss Masterclass on Negotiation is one of my top 3 masterclasses. Here’s one of Chris’s golden nuggets of wisdom…Asking a why-question actually triggers a defensive, accusatory response. Meanwhile, what and how helps a person feel they are in control. Here are some examples… 😁 How am I supposed to do that? 😁 What’s going to happen if I do that? 😁 How do I overcome the challenges that I have here? They are the same question, asking from 3 different angles, which in turn triggers empathy Found this post useful, press that heart icon and follow @theruthellen for more ADHD support

The amount of space comparison cost is too expensive 🎤 claim your peace back @theruthellen #adhd #adhdlife #adhdmemes #adhdproblems #adhdprobs #adhdawareness #adhdbrain #anxietyawareness #adhdsupport #adultadhd #ld #autism #adhdmeme #autismmemes #adhdisreal #funny #funnymemes #learningdisability #dyslexia #neurotic #ocdmemes #mentalhealthawareness #adhdkids #adhdentertainment #asd