We've talked a lot, in past Episodes, about evaluative language and how it is tied to the trauma epidemic which tends to have a dominoes effect of one person (often unconsciously) triggering another.  If this is so, than where do appreciations come i...

Expressing is just as important as giving empathy in the NVC model, and yet it is the component that is sometimes overlooked.  In this Episode, we discuss why it's important to express and how to do so using Observation (O), Feelings (F), Needs (N),...

There tend to be some patterns that occur, especially when people just start learning NVC and then want to share it with others.  In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather address to questions and provide a bunch of tips and insights: What to do when you fi...

If giving empathy and expression in NVC is based in connecting around needs, what is one to do when the other person involved is not interested in contributing to your needs?  This is a very tough topic to explain and Dr. B shares a bit about her own...

Kelly McGrath worked for 20+ years in the General Counsel's office at the Florida Department of Children and Families.  After learning NVC from Dr. Bigbie, she was inspired to take her work in a different direction and now has a private law firm with...

In this episode, we quickly go over the components of empathy:  presence, reflection, and needs guesses.   Then, you will hear Dr. B going through a list of "mock" statements and Heather responding - first with reflection, then Other Conversational R...

In his book, "My Grandmother's Hands:  Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending our Hearts and Bodies," Resmaa Menakem shares about historical and generational trauma and how it lives in our bodies.  Dr. B believes this work is significant and ve...

After a conflict that started on Mother's Day, Dr. B and her daughter had a conversation using their NVC skills and it was "quickly" and "sweetly" resolved.  Afterwards, Dr. B wished she had recorded the whole thing so that her listeners could hear h...

Sometime out loud empathy may not be connecting and, in those circumstances, silent empathy may be just the ticket.  What is silent empathy?  How is it different than just getting quiet in a moment?  When is the best time to use silent empathy?  When...

According to author, Steve Taylor, humans have three different states of mind:  Abstraction, Absorption, and Attention.  Abstraction is the busy mind, consumed with thoughts about past and future.  Our minds are so consumed that we are not plugged in...