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When you're in the thick of an abusive relationship, it’s hard to see things clearly. You might feel confused, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if you’re overreacting. But often, the behaviours you’re experiencing are not random—they stem from three core needs driving the abuser’s actions: feeding their ego, feeding their narcissism, and feeding their need for control.

In my latest article, I break down these three needs and show you how they play out in abusive relationships. Understanding these patterns can help you gain clarity, release the self-blame, and see the relationship for what it is—not love, but control and manipulation.

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll discover:

✨ Feeding the Ego: How abusers undermine your worth to feel superior and keep you dependent.

✨ Feeding Their Narcissism: The cycle of love-bombing, shifting blame, and emotional withdrawal that keeps you hooked.

✨ Feeding the Need for Control: The tactics abusers use—like gaslighting and isolation—to maintain power over you.

Why This Matters

When you understand the motivations behind these behaviours, you can stop blaming yourself and start seeing the truth. Clarity is your first step toward freedom—and you are not alone on this journey.

Journal Prompts to Help You Uncover the Patterns

I’ve also included 5 powerful journal prompts to guide you in reflecting on the patterns in your relationship. These prompts will help you identify how these needs have shown up in your partner's behaviour—and empower you to break free from the cycle.

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You deserve love, freedom, and a life where you are truly valued. I hope this article and the journal prompts offer you the clarity and encouragement you need to take the next step toward that life.

P.S. If the article sparks any thoughts or aha moments, I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to hit reply and share.