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The day I moved, I was fortunate to have seven people volunteer. Yes, you read that right, seven people VOLUNTEERED to help. 

Mind. Blown.

Who does that?!?

Ultimately, I had eight people help, and the moving went fast (we moved a four-bedroom house in less than three hours).

While I was happy that the move was quick, reality set in after I fed the movers and they left: my family and I were left alone to handle the toughest part moving -- settling in.

I'll talk more about that tomorrow, but today I want to make the following point: the wedding day is exciting, exhausting, festive, and filled with friends and family.

However, very quickly, it's just you and your mate. At that point, you're left alone to handle the toughest part of marriage -- settling in.

While it's fine and ordinary to get advice from family and friends about your marriage, you want to be very careful that you don't open doors you can't close, tell stories that can't be unheard, or paint pictures that can't be erased from the mind.

Here's what I'm trying to say: when family and friends continually hear the negative aspects of your marriage relationship, that will become the new barometer of your marriage in their mind -- not the happy moments you and your mate share.

Just as my family was left to do the heavy lifting alone when the movers left, so, too, must you and your mate do the heavy lifting in your marriage.

While I can't do the work for you, I'm here to offer coaching when you need it. Whether it be about communication, conflict, sex, rebuilding trust, or blended families; I'm here for it.

Until tomorrow, do the work to make your marriage work.

Kevin