Getting revenge in marriage

Dec 02, 2020 2:37 pm





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Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. (Romans 17:19)

It's totally natural to want to make someone hurt after they've made you hurt. You don't even have to think about it.

In the past we worked with a couple where the wife had an affair just to get back at her husband who had an affair first.

As you can probably guess, her plan backfired, and it didn't make the marriage any better nor drive her husband to repentance.

What's going on in your marriage that makes you want to get even with your spouse? What's causing you to want to get revenge?

Keep in mind that vengeance belongs to God -- not you.

The scripture says as much as it depends on you, you should live at peace with everyone -- including your mate.

That definitely means not taking revenge for wrong done to you. Instead, you're to hold off on getting even, and instead trust God to make things right.

There are usually two problems with this:

1) It takes God too long

2) He may not "get your spouse" back as well as you would

This is the time to surrender our pain, bitterness, and disgust to the Lord and trust that he knows how to make things right for us and our mate while exhibiting his everlasting love.