Don't do what I did (if you want a good marriage)

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I just did it, again.

I instinctively blamed my son for something BEFORE checking to see if he was the culprit.

I did it four times yesterday (I agree, that's pitiful).

To my horror, each time I blamed Max for something, he wasn't at fault.

Worse, he called me out on it yesterday.

While this is embarrassing and hurtful to me, I imagine it feels worse for Max.

I can't help but wonder about how often I do this to my other children and Cetelia.

Proverbs 18:13, which I'm clearly not following these days, is coming to mind: Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.

Whether it's blaming without asking questions or answering a matter before you've even gotten the details, the result is the same: shame and foolishness.

The action I'm unwisely specializing in at the moment is a demoralizer and relationship breaker.

My encouragement to you is to learn from my shame and foolishness. For the heath of your relationships, do better -- especially with your mate.

I'm off to apologize to Max.

Do you owe someone an apology?

Kevin