Give your mate the benefit of the doubt

Jan 30, 2021 9:56 pm

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Remember the 1990 song Benefit of the Doubt by Pebbles?


Here's some of what she had to say ...


Baby, I believe that you still got a heart

That's why I try to stop myself before I start

'Cause I can make it tough

I can make it rough, but I won't

I'll be giving you the benefit of the doubt

Giving you a minute to try to work it all out

I'll be giving you the benefit of the doubt

Giving you a minute to try to work it all out


There are so many things we go crazy about in our marriage because we rush to judgment, consider the worse, and basically don't give our mate the mercy we'd like to receive when we're in a similar situation.


In other words, we don't give our mate the benefit of the doubt nor a minute to try to work it all out.


Think about it: the more you pile on your mate without context or fully hearing him/her out, the more stress you're going to put on your marriage.


Imagine how much better communication might be if you gave your mate the benefit of the doubt.


Consider how your anxiety would decrease about your mate cheating on you if you gave him/her mate the benefit of the doubt.


If we all gave our mate the benefit of the doubt, our level of marriage happiness would be measurably improved.


For the rest of the weekend, follow Pebble's lead and give your mate the benefit of the doubt, and a minute to try to work it all out.


Kevin





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