Power outages, priorities, and your marriage

Feb 16, 2021 11:00 pm



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My family and I are among the 2 million Texas residents who don't have power.

Well, we do and then we don't.

We've had about four hours of power in the last 36 hours.

It comes on for 30-60 minutes at a time, then it's off for an average of 8 hours.

We're dressed in layers and blankets to withstand the 47 degree temperature in the house, and hopeful the power will come back on soon.

When it does come back on priorities will be revealed, and that's what I want to talk about today.

This morning around 9:00 the power came on. Almost immediately everyone sprang into action with their priorities. After all, we didn't know how much time we'd have until the power went off.

Our priorities

• Teen 1: Getting online, eating

• Teen 2: Getting online, eating

• Teen 3: Getting online, eating

• Spouse 1: Cooking, eating, getting online

• Spouse 2: Cleaning, cooking, boiling water, eating, getting online


1. Each of us had priorities

2. Each of us had priorities that a few priorities that matched

3. Except for the teenagers, our priorities were not in the same order

Priorities and your marriage

You and your mate have different degrees of concern for your marriage. 

You both care about the marriage, but in varying degrees.

You both have priorities for the marriage, but they're likely different, and probably come from a place of self-interest.

Does that mean either of you is wrong?

Not. It just means you're both approaching the relationship differently.

When you understand this and go with the flow, you're less likely to demonize one another and become self-righteous over what you're doing and prioritizing compared to your mate.

Keep this in mind ... it'll bless your marriage.

I hope you stay safe and warm.


ps - The power went off around 10:30, and came back on at 3:30. We'll see how long it lasts this time!