An overlooked secret to loving your spouse

Jun 17, 2021 1:31 pm



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In consensual arranged marriages**, parents or guardians select the marriage partners. The bride and groom-to-be are consulted, consider their potential partner, then given the power to consent or refuse.

In this type of marriage, the expectation is coming to love your spouse.

Even though arranged marriages are not the norm in our culture, could that same expectation be a game changer for our marriages?

What if we ...

  • Intended to come to love our spouse deeper instead of all at once?

  • Understood that acts of love trump feelings of love, and actually encourage them?

  • Recognized that anything or anyone we love was developed over time and with intention?

Come to love your spouse.

It's a daily activity broken into hours, minutes, and intentional, ongoing acts.

Can you arrange that?


* h/t to Coach Mack for inspiring this email

** I want to emphasize that I am referencing consensual arranged marriages, not forced marriages, which is a form of abuse.