Dear ,

This morning I woke up 1600 miles from Texas in my hometown of Greensboro, NC.

I stayed at my mom's house last night, and got up this morning and had a nice breakfast while waiting on my dad to get from his house so we could take care of our obligations for the day.

(If you read between the lines, then you're aware that my mom and dad live in two different places. They divorced almost 30 years ago after my mom's affair wrecked, then split our family.)

All of that drama led to this morning's pickup.

When my dad pulled into the driveway, my mom said, "I'm going to go out and say, hello."

Ugh-oh, I thought to myself.

I know how bothered by dad gets when he thinks about my mom and her husband. What would happen today when he sees her?

My mom said hello, and my dad cracked the window just enough for the sound of his hello to escape the car.

Two minutes after pulling off, my dad got quiet and said, "Why did she do that? I don't see why she would come out there and talk to me."

Problems in the late 80s

My parents divorced in 1993, but their problems began in the late 80s.

There were rumors of an affair that have never been discussed with me, financial issues, communication problems, overworking, and misalignment with what was most important as a couple and family.

To my knowledge, my parents never got marriage counseling or even spoke to a pastor. They simply prayed about the problems, and hoped they'd get better.

They hid the issues from my brother and me pretty well for a while. But, as we got older and started being more observant, we were able to see that there was trouble in paradise.

Being kids, and loyal to both parents, we didn't bring it up.

We were also naive to think they'd figure it out, and our family would survive.

We were right until we weren't.

By the summer of 1993, the handwriting was on the wall.

My mom had legitimate issues with my dad, and my dad had legitimate issues with my mom.

While my mom was ready to move on, my dad was desperately trying to keep the marriage together.

By December of that year, my mom had remarried.

My dad is still hurt 30 years later.

Today for the first time I ever I've begun wondering, "What if?"

• What if they hadn't just stayed miserable, but actually took corrective action?

• What if my mom and dad had really gotten present to what the other needed and made changes?

• What if my mom had loved when she felt like leaving?

While it's too late for my remarried parents, it's not too late for you.

Hope for 2022 and Beyond

If my parents' story sounds like yours, I encourage you to take action.

You may have legitimate gripes against your spouse and vice versa.

You may have financial, communication, and intimacy issues.

There may be adultery in the past, and other reasons that make you want to call it quits.

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• What if you don't just stay miserable, but actually take corrective action?

• What if you and your spouse really get present to what the other needs and make changes?

• What if you love when you feel like leaving?

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Your story doesn't have to be my parents.

Your children's story doesn't have to be mine.

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I can't help but think about what might have been if my parents had enrolled in a course like this back in the early 90s.

They would have had an opportunity to take a fresh look at their marriage, discover blind spots that were causing them to derail the relationship, learn what was blocking their listening to each other, and so much more.

I truly believe had my parents enrolled in a course like How to Love When You Feel Like Leaving, my mom never would have left.

And, the pain my dad felt this morning would have never occurred.

If only.

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Don't have hurt 30 years from now that can be prevented today.

Kevin

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