Your Peace is Waiting Behind the Pattern You're Afraid to Break

Three things you'll discover today:

1. How unconscious patterns protect you from change
2. Why peace often feels unfamiliar initially
3. What to do when you're scared of letting go

The Quote That Changes Everything

"Your peace is waiting behind the pattern you're afraid to break."

The key within this quote is peace, then the waiting behind the pattern because of fear. This quote reveals how the thing you so dearly need isn't as far away as your mind perceives. What change really comes down to is this: how honest are we going to be with ourselves?

There will be patterns with which you have what I call a "love-hate relationship." This means there's disharmony in the combination of energies that create the relationship—the attachment to specific standpoints. A beautiful relationship is peaceful because both partners carry aligned energy, whether this relationship is with a job, an intimate partner, a friendship, or even the weather. You have a relationship to everything in life.

Your peace is waiting behind the pattern you're afraid to break. We need to understand our relationship to our patterns and the emotions they invoke in our being.

Understanding Your Patterns Without Shame

I'm not here to shame you. Let's say you have some form of addiction—whether that's an addiction to being scared, to certain habits, or to putting yourself in weak states of mind. The list goes on: fears of being attacked by a dog, fears of intimacy, fears of public speaking, fears of door-to-door sales. The list is huge, but you get the point.

All it comes down to is the structure, because innately we're all so similar. If you drop all the content—I could have listed 500 things there, but chose just a few to not bore you—you'll see that your specific details may be very unique and prescribed to your soul, but the structure of a human being is universal: we have awareness, and it's our duty as we travel through this journey to understand the relationship between states of being, energy, vibrations, and how aware and truthful we can be during our time on this planet.

The Root vs. The Stem

When you have a pattern you're afraid to break, the big thing is looking at the emotions invoked. When you take a moment to sit with the pattern itself, you're slowing down to create space to understand. When you live with space and the openness, the courage to question, to be skeptical, to understand, then it's only natural that you will start to unravel the thing bit by bit.

Sometimes the pattern is extraordinarily charged. Maybe there's a memory or past experience unconsciously driving the pattern. For the pattern itself to change, you actually have to sit and understand that the pattern is just a stem and not the actual root.

A lot of times our external circumstances or situations are branches of our energetic vibration. You can't victim yourself or get mad at yourself. Certain vibrations are not going to create change in your state, circumstances, or life. Part of the work is learning to let go of resistance toward where you are, who you are, and your average state.

As you do the work to be courageous and open to questioning your resistance, you start to dissolve the foundation of resistance itself. When you walk through life without resistance, your aura becomes powerful. The energy wasted on resistance gets expansive—resistance is basically like a parasite that drains you.

Accepting What Is Inevitable

There's nothing wrong with having resistance because sometimes that's the nature of life. You know that if you have a dog, that dog is not going to live as long as you will. You have to sit with that reality, not run from things that are inevitable.

Every time you consider your pet growing old and passing away—I'm not recommending you dwell on it—but there are things in life that may not be preferable but are irrefutable. They're going to happen. Independent of where you're at in life, you're going to have moments of physical pain, whether from inflexibility or actual injury.

What you do in relationship to that pain makes all the difference. Right now, I have poison ivy on my body. This is the second time I've gotten it. The first time, it really whooped me psychologically and physically—I wanted out. This time I'm doing my absolute best to let the alchemy of my being heal my body, whereas last time I resorted to external applications.

By no means is medicine or herbal application bad, but I'm testing myself, seeing how powerful the energy of letting go is. How powerful is presence that's free of resistance? As I accept and sit with the fact that my body has this right now, I'm exploring whether my vibrational relationship to this ivy can alter the speed at which my body neutralizes the poison.

This is something you can test in many different forms in your life—it doesn't have to be a physical ailment like poison ivy.

Three Key Discoveries

1. How Unconscious Patterns Protect You From Change

It's like the thing is there and it's always there, but if you don't look at it, that doesn't mean it goes away. It's still there.

I'll share a terribly funny, horrific story from my past. I had a friend in middle school and high school who had a dog. This dog would occasionally poop on the tile floor. What my friend would do—he wouldn't clean it up. He would throw a towel over it.

To me, that's a perfect metaphor for what the mind does through thinking, rationalization, and justification in lower vibrational emotions. It's like a hamster wheel—you go round and round without ever getting to the root. The root wouldn't even be cleaning up the poop necessarily. The root would be to potty train the dog. That would be the truth.

The unconscious patterns keep you from change because they keep you busy. Patterns are always consistent in a form of routine or mechanicalness. Whenever you have a routine that's unquestioned and quite consistent, it's not always what's right for you or what you need.

2. Why Peace Often Feels Unfamiliar

If we take the mechanistic routine, the stale, repeatable action, you can see why peace itself would be unfamiliar. A lot of us are unconsciously living misaligned lives—this is why humanity isn't in the golden age yet. Change happens on an individual level first, always.

When peace feels unfamiliar, it's because many of us are so used to a baseline homeostasis of thought, chaos, excess potential, being scared, having expectations, wanting to control things we cannot control, thinking we need to discipline ourselves into perfection. All of this is a form of stalling, stagnation, a higher form of complacency.

Discipline is a great tool, but the tool itself is not the only universal path to truth. You'll need to force yourself to be disciplined for a certain period in your life, and then you'll realize you don't feel the effort of forcing yourself to be a certain way anymore.

What that means is I'm in the best shape of my life and I'm not even trying anymore. I just have standards that I don't force myself to maintain—I can see clearly how I feel when I uphold them.

It's like the saying: the hard life is an easy life where you don't do what you need to do for yourself. The easy life is where you do the harder things that create change in your awareness so you can actually be present in life.

Just like the coal analogy—if coal doesn't get enough pressure, there's no diamond. You have to be open to seeing how to put pressure on yourself. Sometimes mechanistic discipline is a form of complacency, even if you're mechanically waking up at 3 AM, working out seven days a week, doing business 12 hours a day. That could still be weakness, unconscious running, even though it may be high-performing, even though you may be making $200K-$300K+ per year.

We still have to be able to notice our patterns.

3. What to Do When You're Scared of Letting Go

I can't do this for you, but you have to realize that when the wave is coming, you have an option—which really isn't an option if you see clearly. You either stand against the wave and get crashed, run out of the ocean and miss the joy of being in the water, or let go of the fear and dive into the wave.

Whatever you're scared of is calling you. It's saying there's something to be learned here. It's up to you to harness your energy to make that move in alignment in the moment—jump into the abyss, dive through the wave, take that leap and just do it.

This will happen a lot in life, especially if you've found yourself in a lower vibration. Your mind will want you not to move, and you'll get to a point where you understand: all I can do right now is get moving.

There's a poem I love with this line: if you're lost in a forest, don't fear—the trees around you, the bushes around you are not lost. So let them guide you. Learn to listen to nature, to the higher intelligence of this creation. See that you have the power to create, to be the narrator of your entire life, and it all starts with awareness.

Your Journey Forward

If you enjoy this, share it with a friend—I appreciate that so much. Thank you for listening, for taking the time to invest in yourself. Really look at those patterns, because as you look honestly with integrity and sincerity, everything's going to change in your life.

It's only natural that you get aligned with this truth, and inevitably the whole world will get aligned too. Let's usher forth that new age together.

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Have an amazing day. Let's go.

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